My best friend (who's a guy) has just gone to Japan, he is in the Air Force. I think I am in love with him... how do you tell someone that close to you that you love them without risking a friendship that matters most in the world to you. I want him to know how I feel but dont want to lose him in the process... what should I do?
2006-08-15 03:57:46 · 22 answers · asked by AMBER 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
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2006-08-15 04:01:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot gain anything if you don't take the risk. But the biggest risk isn't that you'll lose the friendship, but that he will turn out not to be the person you thought he is. Would your best friend whom you love ruin your friendship if he found out about your feelings and didn't have some of his own? Of course not. You are just suffering from lack of faith. Have faith in him that even if he doesn't love you, he will still want to be your friend. If anything, this episode should bring you two closer rather than introduce doubt.
2006-08-15 11:05:29 · answer #2 · answered by Magina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you want to keep the friendship just dont tell him how you feel cos in many instances the reciever only expects friendship in return nothing else.
I felt the same way about my friend who left to austrailia for her higher studies. and i told her before how i felt before she left. She
said she wants only friendship. From that day onwards i am never the same.
So think twice do you want to risk friendship for love? or stick with friendship? this is a question that cannot be answered by anyone so far and I dont think it would ever be.
All the Best
2006-08-15 11:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by C H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say give it a little time, you could be feeling this way because he's leaving and you are sad about that, absence makes the heart grow fonder...see how you feel once he's been gone..while he's in Japan write him and keep things normal...it may be that he feels the same for you...if you guys have a open and honest relationship then it might be ok to tell him, but if he's already in Japan that might be weird for him to handle with you here and him there to adjust to you telling him how you feel..how long will he be gone?
2006-08-15 11:06:00 · answer #4 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to say it first. Young men are many times afraid of commitment. Love sucks I know. Ive been hurt many times and never got the ones I wanted most but I have a second marriage that is better than being alone. Hes gone and maybe for a long time. You might want to date other people if he doesnt profess love within thirty days.
2006-08-15 11:03:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it... If he loves you back - you are golden... If he doesn't love you in a romantic way, but does as a friend, you may be able to stay friends... Either way, it is worth the risk if you truly love him...
If you don't try, you will wonder about it the rest of your life...
I have had several women that were "just friends" that I cared deeply for but never asked out, tell me now - I had such a crush on you but never knew you were interested...
2006-08-15 11:05:42 · answer #6 · answered by aubietigerbhm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is risking it all for the small chance of getting loved in return. If you love him, the only way he's going to know is for you to tell him...which will in turn change your life in one of two ways...he's not giong to love you back or he will. Simple. Tell him you've had feelings for him and they're not the feelings you thought they were. Tell him the truth about the way you feel. Honesty is best. If he rejects you...im sorry because your friendship will change, but hopefully he'll like you just as much as you like him. Love is worth everthing. Go for it.
2006-08-15 11:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by JUStin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If both of you miss each other then a great friendship starts. Look at the way he talks to you and enjoys spending his time with you. Don't be too forceful or you will scarce him away.
2006-08-15 11:03:56 · answer #8 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts really bad. And it lasts forever.
You should let him know even at risk of losing a friend. But if it is a guy, then I doubt he would turn your affection away very easily.
2006-08-15 11:02:51 · answer #9 · answered by mrlong78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not love that hurts, its our reaction to love or the lack thereof. Suppressing how you feel isn't a good idea and you should come clean and let this person know how you feel. You have got to be prepared for the response and or the reaction, good, bad or indifferent. I vote for telling him how you feel, emphazing the fact that you value his friendship.
2006-08-15 11:10:35 · answer #10 · answered by spoiltrini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love hurts because it involves your heart, your soul and every other part of your being. It is being vulnerable! Vulnerability is a scary business but you always need to be honest no matter how scared you are. Be true to your own heart. Tell him how you feel. Tell him why you are afraid to tell him. Whatever happens, remember that relationships of every kind make us grow, learn and make us much wiser people.
2006-08-15 11:07:48 · answer #11 · answered by Redhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋