can a relationship work after infidelity?

Answer 1

This depends upon the couple, their relationship and the true reason for the "outside activity." A couple in love does seem to make this work. A couple without love will never make it work.

Those who have been hurt the hardest are usually the ones who scream the loudest that this never works out. They are also often the ones who never loved, but had romantic attachments to their partners. Romance fades, love does not.

If you are talking about extramarital activity, then this might take more than counseling. If you are talking about a couple who is not married, then perhaps jealousy is a big issue and professional help is needed.

A couple in a true loving relationship can work through every possible situation. Those who are not, are best off going their separate ways.

Answer 2

It can if both parties are willing to work on it. The one who cheated has to own up to it and not make excuses and definitely never blame their partner for their own cheating. The one who was cheated if they say they forgive they have to work hard on doing so. They should not throw it in their partners face each time they have an argument. The third person that was introduced into the relationship should be gotten rid of even if it was a family member. If you want the relationship to work but can't then you should go to joint therapy as the problems may be deeper than cheating.

Answer 3

My advise on that subject is this...If you identify the reason for the infidelity, from the person who was unfaithful, and they are actually sorry about it, it will take a while to rebuild a trust and bond, but it can work....Both parties need to try to understand what is wrong with their relationship and work on it....If the person who was "wronged" chooses never to forgive, and try to move forward, it will be done. But the person who was unfaithful has to understand its the other persons decsion, and there is nothing to do but be accept the responsibility for his/her own actions and move on themselves.

Answer 4

NO! I don't care what anyone says but whether one claims they are over the fact that their spouse cheated they honestly aren't. It's something that will always be in the back of their head and something that one will never get over.

I have learned that you can remain in an unhappy, unstable relationship with someone for years but it will never be the same.

Answer 5

A friendship can, a marriage is iffy. The person who was cheated on is the one who has to deal with it the most. If they can handle it, and forgive (you never forget), then it can work. Real tough though.

Answer 6

people say yes but i dont beleive so...can you really really rebuild trust? you dont look at the person the same way...my bf cheated on me and through my mother's yapping i gave him a chance...let me tell you, me before his cheating and me after are 2 different people...after he had cheated on me, if he called or not i didnt care, if he came to see me or not i didnt care, one time he was with a girl, but there were only friends, he came to me and said nothing is going on we're just friends i said to him "what you do in your personal life is none of my business" and we eventually broke up because he saw that i honestly didnt care for him the way i did before, he did confront me qnd i told him look here's the thing about love you can hurt the person anytime you want to because you have that capacity, but a person who TRULY loves you will never hurt you even tho they know they can...that's the beauty of true love.

Answer 7

Maybe... maybe not. It all depends on the cause. In all it's one of the toughest thing anyone can face or have to deal with. One may forgive one but the thought still lingers within that persons mind.

If i am to be faced with such dilema I think would forgive my bf/husbnd, providing that he loves me and me in return........

Answer 8

Sometimes it can, if you ask the right questions. Why did they have to do it? For what reasons was it worth it? Ect. counseling helps a lot . But most just keep it inside.

Answer 9

it takes a very long time to get the trust back but its been done.....i married the man that cheated on me when we were dating (he is a recovering alcoholic and has been sober for 4 years) we dated for four years before we got married and we have been married for 4 years now

Answer 10

Yes it can. but it ain't easy! Ten years later it still comes up. Yes it was my fault. but if you tell me you don't want to see me again, what am I supposed to do. It is still my fault.

Still struggling, after all these years....

Answer 11

with counseling yes...but in general It could last a bit longer or just last BUT It will always be brought up and arguements will always happen because of it....