Grrr, my husband's always snapping at me for stupid s**t.?

Question

How do I deal with this?

Answer 1

baby girl, why are you letting him? ask him" what's your problem?". do not let him just get away for talking to you in that tone. it would only make you feel smaller and smaller. i don't think he was like this before you married him. so, set it staight, stand up for yourself. and have a good talk to clear things up.

Answer 2

It usually means something bigger is on his mind! The next time he snaps about something that seems trivial just tell him you know he is too nice of a guy to be flying off the handle all of the time so you think there must be something more important bothering him, and you'd like to sit down and talk about. Try it a few times with similar approaches and see if he will open up. If he still won't talk and keeps snapping, tell him you are willing to listen anytime he wants to talk but, in the meantime you have no desire to be around him if he is going to treat you that way.
I'd be willing to bet he has something bigger on his mind. Sometimes it takes us guys awhile to get around to it but, if you approach it right you may be able to clear the air.

Answer 3

Some time when he is not snapping at you tell him that when he does talk down to you or "snap" at you that it feels degrating or it hurts your feelings or whatever - then tell him when he does it you will have a cue word to let him know what he just did - my word to my hubby when he snaps at me is "respect" cause that's what I feel he is lacking when he does those snaps. He most likely grew up in a family that his parents didn't treat each other with respect and that's what he knows.

Answer 4

Try to talk to him and let him know he hurts you when he snaps at you ask him if his day was hard or if he has a lot on his mind he may not know hes snapping but if he is just doing it to be mean then let him know you wont tolerate being treated like that.

Answer 5

Cool yourself down. It always happens. Try to talk things down with him maybe he has some problems at work or something.. Make a date & cook a nice meal for him so that he knows how precious u are to him. One's got to be the fire and one's got to be the water. In this situation you are the water. So you can cool him down by not getting angry back at him.

Answer 6

Try to sit down and talk to him he may be suffering from stress or he has just had a bad day and you being the closest to him are the one he lashes out at.Maybe if you sat and talked to him he would stop being so snappy.Maybe he just doesn't realise that he is doing it.but either way if you try to talk to him in a non confrontal way he may realise that this is getting to you and he may just try not to be so snappy towards you try telling him to take it out on the people that have made him feel this way as it worked for me and now I am not so snappy towards the one I love and things are back on track and we are back to loving each other again.

Answer 7

Don't answer him, better yet make fun of him. Ask him if think you are his genie or what? Then act like he is ur master...he will get sick of it! Act like a smart-***! My mom did this with my dad and then he st stoped and he must have felt stupid. Because he doesn't do it anymore!

Answer 8

Number one don't snap back. Calming ask why is he snapping at you for what you consider a incidental.

Answer 9

Quit doing the stupid things!

Answer 10

Have you tried not doing the stupid s.h.i.t. That might help. let him know that he is hurting you emotionally and tell him have more respect that you are his wife not his child. and that you love him and that he better love you too. you can't take anymore.