2006-08-15 02:58:22 · 12 answers · asked by blk man luvs pussc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
please dont judge i love my son but have put up with his mom telling him i no longer love him cuz i have a second child i believe kids should have limits and be discplined she does not she wont even put him 2 bed at a reasonable hour which makes it really hard to get it donw when he is with me i am not included on any parenting issues other than making sure my 800 per month is in her hands
2006-08-15 03:01:22 · update #1
Get an attorney and take her *** back to court...and yes, giving up parental rights does exempt you from child support payments
2006-08-15 03:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you can never get rid of the child support.
Now on to your problems:
A child can learn to have two sets of rules, you jut have to firmly let him know that there are rules in your house. If you have difficulty with making him obey your rules, then you are sending him mixed signals! For children to understand there must be regularity in your rules. "A rule is a rule." Never break it.
And YES having a child will limit your "getting down"! And that is as it should be! After all, you are no longer a care free person. You have responsibilities! Your ex claiming you don't love you son any more, could be a reflection of your bad parenting skills. If you see you children as a hindrance and you honestly worry more about "getting down" than you do about what is best for them, then you don't honestly love them!
Time to grow up and be a MAN and a DAD. Quit worrying about your sex life and worry about how you can make them into better people.
2006-08-15 03:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by llywarch_dindaethwy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that "legally giving up parental rights" does exempt you from further owed child support but if you owe back child support you would still be responsible for that.. Also not sure if the laws change somewhat from state to state. That is a big decision to give up your rights and possibly a decision your child could hate you for in the future.
You might be able to go to parent counseling w/ her - maybe she will come to realize that it only benefits the childs well being that you are involved with the child and his upbringing.
Best of luck to you and your child
2006-08-15 03:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by skiingbabygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take her *** back to court FAST!! If you have legal custody/visitation papers, she has to follow those guidelines and include you in parental decisions. As difficult as it is, sadly, for a father to gain custody of a child, you need to try. And, I am not positive, but I do believe that giving up your parental rights means you are no longer obligated to pay support, but you would have to get that answer from your local authorities (i.e. Family Court). I wish you the best of luck and give you the utmost respect for being a concerned Dad.
2006-08-15 03:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by tmh_31 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In TX it does. Why would you let this woman come between you and your son, it's like your giving up. You do know that you will do more damage than good to that child. I hope you seriously reconsider and put your child's emotional well being first. Don't make all the things his mother said become true.
2006-08-15 03:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what your ex says or does you should not even consider given up your parental rights. Go talk to your lawyer, if he or she is no good find the best divorce/custody lawyer in your area and hire him or her and then take your ex back to court and sue for joint custody. Start documenting everything she does and everything your son tells you she says. Proof that she is trying to wreck your relationship is powerful evidence in court.
2006-08-15 03:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure but I believe even giving up your rights still obligates you to support him. I would contact an attorney to find out for sure. I do know if you allow another to adopt him, you no longer need to pay support.
2006-08-15 03:06:20 · answer #7 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really love your child if your willing to give up your rights and not see him. So if his mother loves him and cares for him she's already one step ahead of you.
You were equal partner in getting pregnant with that child, now you have to put up with the mother.
Sounds to me like your trying to get out of paying child support.
I feel sorry for your son
2006-08-15 03:12:42 · answer #8 · answered by suttlegn123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a ex single mom, I don't think that you should give up your rights to your child. I live in Illinois and you can not relinquish your rights unless someone else is willing to adopt. I think that once his mom finds someone else that she is happy with she will be better to deal with.
Try to be nice to her as hard as it is. She is probably hurt that you have moved on to someone else and have had another child.
It's a hard road, but it will get better.
Do it for your kid.
2006-08-15 03:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, even though you get cut out from your child's life, you still have to pay the child support, for her to spend as she pleases. The thing I hate about it is you still have to pay the taxes on child support she uses for her benefit. They should at least change the tax laws so she is responsible for the taxes since you have no say-so as to what it's spent on.
2006-08-15 03:06:13 · answer #10 · answered by fishing66833 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋