Father and I had been together for 23 yrs,divorced year and half ago.My sons (3) did not want to leave their house so they stay with their dad most of the time. Their dad is irresponsible and emotionally inmature. The kids do what ever they want. I live in IN,they live in Oh. I am getting ready to move in their school district because now their dad has to move.He doesnt own the house. I live with someone and we have a very good relationship. He also has kids (2) hi kid wants to stay in his school and my kids want to stay in theirs. Basically, I feel since I have not lived with my kids on a full time basis, I have lost all and any control. Mainly with my 14 yr old. I have one 19 and 17 almost 18. I dont know how in the heck I am going to get the 14 yr old back to at least "stable". I think he is very hurt and very resentful about the divorce but tries to act like he doesnt care. The rumors of the drinking and crap are very disturbing to me.
2006-08-15 02:54:41 · 7 answers · asked by crazartgirl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Time to make some hard choices mom. The boyfriend may have to be put on the back burner so you can be a mother to your child. Most insurances cover for therapy, I would advise this for your son. He is at a very difficult age and extremely impressionable. This is one of those time we as parent need to lead by example. Step in, take control, and get your son the help he so desperately is calling out for. My best wishes to you and your family.
2006-08-15 03:08:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family counseling. There IS going to be a lot of resentment. A counselor can get it out in the open in a non-harmful way and get the focus back on each family member functioning well.
You didn't say who has custody - but your 14 year old is under somebodies care, and should be getting help for the alcohol problem. If his father wimped out, you have to step up.
You should be able to start with his pediatrician if you don't know where to get help.
Good luck.
2006-08-15 03:04:41 · answer #2 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a kid myself now and have gone through somewhat the same experience as your 14 year old, Ill try to help. I didn't even want to see my dad when he came back. But he tried so hard and eventually I realized that he was doing his best. Just treat your kid with more love than you should, but dont let him get away with too much. Hope I helped, and good luck.
2006-08-15 03:00:33 · answer #3 · answered by Balzy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This child is crying out & I hope you are paying attention. He is hurting soooo badly. I understand why you left your children with their dad, but this boy needs a MOTHER. He needs professional counselling...NOW.
It's going to take WORK to get your child back. And allowing this child alcohol is child abuse and needs to be removed from his father's home. Unless you do something, if someone reports this to the authorities, this child will be put in foster care. You will lose him totally. Get legal counsel to get custody of your son. It's also going to greatly test your new relationship.
2006-08-15 03:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do not make up stories about your son drinking at that age. He is drinking, and lots of kids at that age drink. You need to go to court and get full custody of him if he is destroying himself like that. The father obviously cannot take care of those kids on his own and encapable of it! Take control and be a parent to him. God knows he needs one.
2006-08-15 03:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drug test the 14 year and put him in rehab if he tests posititve.
2006-08-15 07:24:10 · answer #6 · answered by Carp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call cxhild protection services on him!
2006-08-15 02:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mike Dub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋