what can u do or say to friend that has been thru 4 deaths in the last 2 1/2 month..the 4th bein the most recent bein grandmother found raped and beaten to death..she's in like emotional shock right now...just stares into space like shes on another planet...i think she's mentally wore out
2006-08-15 02:49:54 · 8 answers · asked by stop_lyin 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
thanks for all the advice....hopefully seenin ur son will do somethang for her..cause im really lost for words right now...thnaks again
2006-08-15 03:33:56 · update #1
thanks for all the advice....hopefully seenin her son will do somethang for her..cause im really lost for words right now...thnaks again
2006-08-15 03:35:11 · update #2
tough one, hang in there and just be as supportive as you can, keep being her friend and doing nice things for her. She probably won't want to do much so try to ease her out of the house and get her doing things again, even if she just wants to go for a walk or something. Music helps a lot too. I'm real sorry for her
2006-08-15 02:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by Hans B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may actually need some time in a hospital - just to rest. I have a friend who went through something like that. He's not nuts, just needs some time reset.
I don't think that humans should be accustomed or ever grow accustomed to that kind of sadness. So, in a way, your friend is giving normal reactions right now.
Keep an eye on your friend - don't be obtrusive, but don't distance yourself either.
2006-08-15 03:15:05 · answer #2 · answered by saphires77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is a great healer: but during the time it would take to heal wounds of trauma, some one or a few people would have to hold the hands of the trauma-struck person, to give company, to encourage talking and crying and venting: to give solace through deliberate efforts. To share the sorrow. NLP is an area for your consideration (Neuro linguistic programming), other than Reiki, to look for remedial healing techniques.
2006-08-15 03:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by swanjarvi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry 2 hear this but u can take her 2 calm places like gardens .in this situation they feel lonely , u should be with that person . best is buy some fishes in a bowl seeing them relaxes ur senses they r very affectiveand calm 2 watch them swim
2006-08-15 02:57:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she hasn't been to a doctor, take her to one.
Be there for her, try to get other friends and
family to invite her places to distract her from her pain. Dealing with the death of loved ones,
especially under those circumstances has to be
extremely painful. Bless you for being there for
her.
2006-08-15 02:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by sky2seas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a case where professional help would be the best. I would encourage her to seek some therapy to help her get through her losses. While she is getting help, you can just be supportive. Listen to her when she wants to talk, understand if she doesnt....
2006-08-15 03:01:11 · answer #6 · answered by bluedaboodee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs some bereavement counselling. She must be really stressed out. Just be her friend, try to get her to talk, and most importantly, LISTEN to her.
2006-08-15 03:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy moly thats really hard to beleve god bless her.
well you can remind her of the things she does have and show her the good things her dead relatives did.
i hope shes better!
2006-08-15 02:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by DiaBEEtus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋