hi, iv been in a long distance relationship for lil over a year now, things have been going bad in the past 2-3 months, and we have decided to take a break for a week to see if it helps, im not sure with what to do, because i have only ever seen pictures of the girl im with, and when we tried to see each other something always happens and we dont get to see each other, i have had doubts of what she looks like, as iv found pics online.. but she says that person stole them from her, i really miss how things were when we got togethor but i feel the problems that happend during the relationship has made us how we are now, i would still ike to see her, and be apart of her life, but i dont want to hurt her more then i have.. or more then shes hurt me, the hurt isnt fun... she has a bad past which is a problem because shes unable to let go (understand why not) i dont hold it against her, but its difficult to be perfect and not slip up.. what do u think would be the best for me to do.
2006-08-15 02:44:53 · 12 answers · asked by pete s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off--you've never seen her in the flesh??? Do you truly doubt that she is who she says she is? Have you been completely honest with her about who you are?
I would back out of this one completely. Give her an ultimatum. Tell her you want to meet her face to face...no excuses. Then you can go from there. But it seems that your "relationship" could be based on a lie. If she agrees to meet up with you and she is what she has been saying she is, then it all depends on how you truly feel about her. IF you think its worth it, then go for it. But if you get even the slightest bad vibe, run. You're only setting yourself up to get hurt worse later on down the road.
2006-08-15 02:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by WonderTwit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you should talk more about the problems that came up between you two. Analyzing why they came up (probably because of distance) will definitely help you understand the relationship a bit more. Plus, there is probably a little resentment between you two for not seeing each other. Talk about it, try again and make sure there aren't any distractions. Also, sometimes sadly, relationships change. Holding a relationship over long distances is hard. If you're still not getting anywhere after you've had a break and talked about what I've suggested, both of you should talk about whether you still want to be friends. It sometimes comes to that. Good luck.
2006-08-15 09:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by risingphoenix421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't consider it a real relationship if you've never actually met the person. Seems like you guys both have serious trust issues and I think the best thing for both of you would be to just end it now. There will be hurt, but better now than even more hurt later.
2006-08-15 09:50:08 · answer #3 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've invested too much emotion into a "fake" relationship. You've never met, and you are acting like you've spent months together, even though you haven't. I did this same kind of thing when I was younger, and when we met, all the chemistry and "love" we had before meeting just disappeared. End it now, or just go meet her, and it'll probably end then.
2006-08-15 09:48:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't even seen each other in person--there is no "love like relationship". Being friends to one another on the internet is one thing so, you can continue that but, for love you have to spend time together personally. So. be friends but move on
2006-08-15 09:59:53 · answer #5 · answered by tabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that whatever she looks like in person doesn't matter anymore because you have come to love her as she is as a person and not through her physical appearance...this sounds great....just wait and see the results of your week's break-up...hope for the best...that she feels the same way as you do...Goodluck!!!
2006-08-15 10:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by chona a 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has a reason to keep delaying meeting you in person. I would give her a deadline to meet in person and if that doesnt happen - MOVE ON.
2006-08-15 09:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on... sounds kinda strange if you ask me. Might even be a dude playing with you. Move along... life's short.
2006-08-15 09:50:18 · answer #8 · answered by Mossy Bus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait a minute...u've never seen the girl n person? what a loser. get a real gf. ur datin a bot
2006-08-15 09:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Mike Dub 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone you can connect with in your area and let go. She's not into you.
2006-08-15 09:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋