How anyone lived with thier spouse as roomates because they can not afford to move out? I am, we have three kids and it's hard but do able. Right now he has a girlfriend and just is all over her (new relationship) but in a way I am jealous cause even when we dated he never was like this with me. I just wonder if anyone has done this what worked?
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2006-08-15 02:33:26 · 15 answers · asked by moonspawnhotmailcom 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am living with my wife as a room mate. I can understand how you feel. It is real poor form on the part of your husband to do all this in your marital home in front of your kids and you. I think you must talk to him and ask him to move elsewhere with his girl.
2006-08-15 02:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by MARS1951 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's always hard in a break up like that to see the other person start dating it don't seem fair to see them act better in that relationship then they did in yours. But that is what happens because people grow and learn from experiences. I would see about getting some kind of help for u to move or him to move or it will be more emotional on u to deal with that stuff. Dont let him bring the girl home that would not be right with the kids that is the kids home they had with mom and dad their security place to let him wreck that for them. Tell him to stay at his girlfriends house or something. But eventually one of u will have to move it is not easy money wise i know espically right now but it will all be ok soon enough it just takes time. Good luck.
2006-08-15 03:09:17 · answer #2 · answered by hubbys2ndbest2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known people who did this for the same reason--not enough money to move out. There are a couple of things going on with you right now that are a problem. You shouldn't have to watch him with a new girlfriend, especially in front of the kids. I think he's going overboard to make you feel bad--and that is really sick. He may even be trying to drive you out of the house. Establish some rules, and one of them should be no bringing dates home.
The other thing is that you don't mention if you are dating. If you aren't, that is another reason this is bothering you. He's moving on and you are not. Do you have a legal separation? You could get one even if you are living under the same roof. You need to do that--and then you need to start finding someone new yourself, once you feel really free to move on.
2006-08-15 02:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my ex husband and I lived as roommates for about six months. We had separate bedrooms and lived separate lives. But we did try to have dinner with the kids every night. It was hard, but at the time I was looking for a job and a place to live. He was dating someone, but he never brought her to the house or around the kids until after I was gone.
Oh, and don't be jealous ... that's probably why he's doing this ... it's the reaction he's looking for.
2006-08-15 02:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by Lady J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-11 09:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by shoaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a divorce as soon as possible. You should get out of that place soonest possible. Having to see him with his new girlfriend for you might be "jealousy" but have you wonder what affect it is making on your 3 kids. They most probably are so confused with the happenings around them. Otherwise workout some rules. Both of you must spare a thought for the kids.
2006-08-15 02:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by Sap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not healthy especially if you have kids. Move out immediately. I found that when people use excuses "can not afford to move out" etc. they are not really accepting the reality that the marriage is over. If you are married you are (should be) entitled to a good portion of you combined wealth, and should receive child and spousal support.
2006-08-15 02:39:59 · answer #7 · answered by TropicalSun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't work and it's not working for you. "Can't afford" is a poor excuse for not breaking the bonds. Look for another place to live and get a second job if need be. Why do you want to torture yourself?
2006-08-15 02:43:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a temporary fix, but you're already starting to have problems with it (emotionally). The time is coming where one of you is going to have to leave and start over.
2006-08-15 02:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need ground rules. Especially with children, it's wildly inappropriate for him to have her at that house at all. They can cuddle all the want at her place.
2006-08-15 02:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋