Hi there. Was with a girl for 2 years 6 months ago. She left me. I have moved on alot since then and alot more happier. The question is, I am really looking forward to my next relationship, but at the same time I am so scared and not sure if I ever want one again. I keep on looking on dating sites to find someone but I never do. Just wandering if anyone has been in a similar situation, and how did you know when you were ready again. Silly it sounds but my mind is in two places. Thanks in advance.
2006-08-15 02:18:22 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have been just where u are at . I was with the person I married since I was 16. We were together for a total of over 20 years. I had two children at the time wondering if I could, how, and who in their right mind would. I found my soul mate in a yahoo chat room believe it or not. He unfortunately died Jan 30, 2006. Some jerk fooling around on a snowmobile killed him. I was devastated. I was not sure if it was right to move on, what others would think. I currently am with a wonderful man. My advice to you is jump in and go for it. If it is the right time you will know it. If it isn't then play the field til the time comes. Good luck!!
2006-08-15 03:02:55 · answer #1 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once bitten, twice shy! It happens to everyone at one time or another. No two relationships are the same so don't bring feelings from your last relationship into your next. I put a wall up so that I would never be hurt again but I found that I didn't allow anyone in.....life is full of chances, please don't live in a bubble because you'll never find love again. Just relax and enjoy dating, when the right one comes along, you'll know it!
2006-08-15 09:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
as soon as you stop looking, that's when you are more likely to find what you are looking for. Concentrate on you, and things will fall into place. It did for my husband and I. Meeting each other after both of us being in bad marriages, and even worse divorces, didn't expect to find anyone again. Neither was actually looking for anyone other than a friend, and now we have that and so much more. Join a club or group that is involved in something you are interested in, and you will meet people who share your interests. There you will likely meet someone - it may take a little time - but the club/group will be fun nonetheless
2006-08-15 09:24:20 · answer #3 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its normal for you to be scared of starting a new relationship but you are headed for hurt again if you are so determined to get into another one you need to stop looking and the right one will come to you ok cus when you look you always end up finding the wrong thing so just relax love will come to you when you are ready ( and when it feels you are ready)
2006-08-15 09:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My fiance was in your shoes before. He waited 2 yrs after his divorce before dating again. Well actually I asked him on a date. He too was looking for someone for a little while before he decided just too not worry about it anymore and focus on his kids and his job. Then love eventually found him. So the moral too this little story is Love will find you when you least expect it so don't get discouraged. Its when you put the hunt aside and focus on something else, a hobby etc. that love will find you. So enjoy your life and it will find you.
2006-08-15 09:31:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being in a relationship is taking a chance and exposing your feelings. There are no guarantees that you won't be hurt again. When you come across a woman you like, just go at it slowly.Good luck.
2006-08-15 09:34:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A long relationship can drain one.
However in my belief no matter how bad the fall if you do not pick yourself up and try again how are you ever going to know
2006-08-15 09:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by ambidextrous25 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are ready when you cant remember what your girlfriend looked like.my advice is,go to 'speed dating' agencies. you can date upto 30 people at the same day.there is no pressure or no obligation.go to google and type speed dating. there will be a lot of sites near you.
2006-08-15 09:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What you are feeling is normal. Dont be hard on yourself. When the right time comes you yourself will know. In my case, the best thing happened to me when I wasnt even looking. It just happened.
2006-08-15 09:48:23 · answer #9 · answered by tomnjerry 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You get ready by taking action. Go ahead. Chat! You don't have to get involved deeply.
You will never be ready if you don't take a chance.
2006-08-15 09:26:09 · answer #10 · answered by Madeamove 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋