My best guy friend and I hang out all the time. We mutually know this girl in one of our classes...he hooked up with..which is fine. but...we were doing a project and the girl he hooked up with called him and asked him where he was. he told her that he was doing homework and then they talked and he hung up. then he gave her my number because she though she had a project of mine.( this was right after his and hers conversation...he gave her my number) i answered the phone and she said to me...where are you...and i told her that i was with (my guy friend) my guy friend gets all mad and told me not to tell her....what does this mean?? he even told me that she gets weirded out when we hang out!!!! What's the deal?!!!!
2006-08-15 02:10:51 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sometimes people get worried when their boyfriend or girl friend hangs out with other people of the same sex. The reasons are this:
1) they are afraid the other person with hit on there boy/girl friend
2) they are afraid there boy/girl friend could cheat on the other person
3) they are afraid the other person could steel there boy/girl friend away from them
4) his girl friend could be insecure (afraid of not handling tough situations)
5) She may not want her friends to know (because sometimes they can spread false rumors or try to break a couple up due to jealousy)
What you can do:
You should let your friend know honestly how you feel about this. It seems like you are good friends with him so I think he will be honest with you in telling you what’s going on. Also tell the girl that you won’t hit on or try to steel her man away from her, I know that’s what you are not trying to do. Also tell the girl that since you are friends. Tell her you care about him and his relationship with you and want it to work out. The girl wants to know her relationship won’t have any kind of threats so to speak. If a difficult drama situation results, try not to get in the middle of it, I've learned this from experience. Recognize that these situationations may not always be your fault. Also recognize that your friend is interested in his girl friend but also wants to still be your friend.
I hope this helps; good luck!
2006-08-15 02:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by James H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are both insecure in their trust, in their relationship, and, in their openness and respect for each other, and the bigger world, the Relationship!
It all has nothing to do with you, because you are the innocent school project partner!
They both have a HUGE amount of growing up to do! You think there won't be other instances where one of them is out with 'chums' or 'school buddies' of the other gender?
They are new at this, immature, insecure, and, very stupid. Stupid is defined as lacking full knowledge... Which they sure do! Must be their first time at trying out a relationship of same aged people, not mommy-child!
Thank you for a really GREAT Question!
2006-08-15 09:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is jealous, but worse she's possessive and manipulative (ie: tricking him into giving your number) that's a bit psycho in my book. It doesn't sound like he has the backbone to tell her "look I have female friends that I'm not giving up for anyone!!" So I would just let him know that you don't think it's cool AT ALL and also be very careful of this girl she sounds a bit nutty!! My best wishes to you! Oh and you might want to let him know that if you were seeing someone you would not let that person come between your friendship! :)
2006-08-15 09:22:17 · answer #3 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes girls get jealous for ridiculous reasons, but I think I can see why the girl gets "weirded out". It's hard to see a guy and a girl being really good friends and nothing else. I know how you feel.
2006-08-15 09:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like alot of immaturity going on here. Your "buddy" is being pursued by this girl, I would say she is jealous of the time he spends with anyone else, and your buddy doesn't have the balls to be honest with the girl and tell her to back off and leave him alone. And you - you are in the middle of it all. Best advice - no matter what, you always be honest - it's easy to get lost and confused in a maze of lies - and they will always come back to bite you in the butt
2006-08-15 09:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy or she doesnt know you 2 are hanging out together. Who knows what stories hes told her. Becareful you might find your self in the middle of a difficult situation. Chat to your friend find out what he has and hasnt told her.
2006-08-15 09:16:42 · answer #6 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mayb your guy friend doesnt want his girlfriend knowing that he hangs out with you. mayb the guy friend didnt want to let his girlfriend know where he was. for whatever reason, something must be going on there with the guy friend and his girlfriend. mayb u should talk to your guy friend's girlfriend more to see why she gets weird when u and him hang out.
2006-08-15 09:18:24 · answer #7 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either she is jealous of him or has self-esteem issues or he thinks of you as more than a friend and hopes to develop something there.
2006-08-15 09:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by Jeffrey B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is interested in her.but doesnt want to hurt u by telling this to u.i know its hard to accept this for u but thats the way life is?
2006-08-15 09:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by jaishree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhhhhh duhhhh!!! she's jealous of u... she feels insecure that he spends his time with u and u might take him away from her!
2006-08-15 09:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by conspicuous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋