He is married. We are together from 5 years and I love him more than everything. I think and believe he does the same way too. But he has 2 children and he is afraid from them to be guilty if he will be divorce. But is hurts like hell to be without him. WHAT I HAVE TO DO, TO LEAVE HIM OR TO GIVE ANOTHER CHANCE TO MY LOVE WITHOUT KNOWING IF HE WILL THINK IT AGAIN.....
2006-08-15 02:05:31 · 39 answers · asked by Ani I 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why are you with this man? How can you say this man loves you when he keeps you as a mistress?
He wants the best of both worlds while you get the best of none.
Part of love is respect and honor........by this man being married to one woman and sleeping with you..........He has no respect for himself, his wife, his children or you.
And evidently you have no respect for yourself either.
Women like you are home wreckers, you cause children pain and suffering. (his kids and yours)
Not to mention that what you both are doing goes completely against God and his principles.
Don't you think that maybe you deserve better then this?
Don't you think his wife and kids deserve better then this?
You know this man is married and yet you choose to sleep with him....In my book that makes you a woman of very loose or non existent morals.
2006-08-21 16:01:11 · answer #1 · answered by ETxYellowRose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say that nothing good will come from this except hurt. I doubt he will ever leave his wife, stats say that less than 4% actually do leave thier wives, and marry thier mistress. If they do marry thier mistress there is an 85% chance they will do it to you as it is a cycle that they cant and dont know how to break as they have been doing it for so long. You are better than that and deserve more. The pain will lessen as the days go by, but a short period of pain as opposed to a life time of it from the same person is a better option. Give yourself the chance to live for yourself and not someone you will never have.
2006-08-20 13:57:39 · answer #2 · answered by bootaboutit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have wasted 5 years on him. While he is home living a lie you are left alone to face it by yourself. He is selfish and won't ever leave, if he hasn't already. Have more respect for yourself and get the hell out of the relationship. This will not work even if he does leave you will always wonder if he is cheating on you. Find someone that will treat you will the love and respect you deserve good luck
2006-08-22 23:18:42 · answer #3 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is dump this guy he is only using you. I know it is easier said than done but trust me if you were already with him for FIVE years and deeply in love with him and you only THINK he feels the same way about you somethings wrong. If he didn't leave his wife after all these years chances are he never will. Hes having his cakes and eating it to and as long as you allow this to go on hes not going to change anything. If you love him that much and willing to settle for less then by all means keep seeing your man but on the other hand if your looking for love, marriage and to have your own family one day you need to cut your losses and move on boo.
2006-08-19 23:48:00 · answer #4 · answered by lady_bactran 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, He is just playing with your feelings! I don't believe that it has to do with his kids at all, he just knows that if he keeps feeding you that same old line all of the time that you will stay with him! You have already wasted 5 years of your life for a man that is never going to leave his wife & kids! You should just let him go, and move on with your life! Find you a man that is not married, fall in love and make your own family!!!!!!!!!
Good Luck!!!!
2006-08-21 00:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after 5 yrs...you're the booty call...and that's all you are....he expresses his love for you and he's also doing the same thing to his wife. He's got his cake and eating it too.
don't sell yourself short.....you need to WAKE up....LQQk around you and open your eyes to the world around you. You've blocked everything off by your blindness that this relationship you have will go somewhere.
How would you feel if you were his WIFE.....the stories he tells you etc.....Put yourself in his WIFES' shoes.....
I think seriously you and his WIFE need to have lunch....introduce yourself....who knows...you and she could be the best of friends...sharing the stories and the 5 yrs of lies!!!
This man...is a LOSER....and he's putting the guilts on you and you're a fool to believe his LIES....
He's not staying because of the chldren....he is using the children as an excuse. He knows if he divorces...there will be child support, maintence (alimony) 1/2 expenses for medical/ dental....not to mention the security blanket he's built for himself in his small little world.
You need to STOP...don't be a BOOTY call....Have some self respect for yourself....
2006-08-22 00:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are in a vey bad situation. I have seen it many times. He has no intention of leaving his wife and he is using the kids as an excuse. When in actuality..he is just wanting sex with his mistress..he doesn't want the moral responsibility. He just wants the excitement. You need to get out of that relationship and find someone who will love you like you deserve to be loved. And what's to say if he did get out of the marriage and got with you that he wouldn't do the same to you?
2006-08-19 05:46:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anne E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those kids will grow up and they will always be his kids,grown up or not,so his feelings will never change(if in fact the kids are his reasons to stay in marriage)..You need to think about that,not to mention his marriage has grown,also.Even if you think not.Give him back to his family,entirely.Pray for the strength to endure,that your own feelings will vanish along with this terrible situation.I really think his feelings for you are not committed,and maybe that is the reality of it all..Don't let him manipulate you,you are neither his wife ,nor his child.Your lucky he has not turned the tables around by now,and let you go on your way.He must like the arrangement,it's not you he likes the best.It is himself.Run..
2006-08-21 17:05:32 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, he is not afraid to leave his wife. He has everything--you, a wife, and children. I have been there (over seven years) and when I became pregnant-guess what-I did not have him. He was gone and pretended we had never known each other. Get on with your life-he has one. It will hurt for awhile, but believe me, it will get better. There is a single man just waiting for you.
2006-08-21 10:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by rose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him he will not leave his wife no matter what he says he is using you and you are wasting your time waiting on someone you will never have......yes it will hurt but you deserve a man that gives you 100% of himself and is not playing games. Think about it if he really love you he would move heaven and earth to be with you. Love has no obsticles.
2006-08-15 02:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by mustang.suzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋