im getting tired of her sleeping with any one...ive got to tell her, but how? HELP!
2006-08-15 01:58:27 · 32 answers · asked by milissa w 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
By sleeping with her.
2006-08-15 02:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by bobby t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm sorry to report, but I don't think you can "Fix" your friend. You can try to tell her what you think, but there's no way to tell somone that she is "Too Sexually Active", which is the nicest way to say it, without hurting her feelings, and possibly ending your friendship.
Honestly, I think all you can do is look for new friends. This girl is letting her sexual desires run her life. The thing between her legs is doing the thinking, and the thing in her skull is just floating there. This is not a person you want to be friends with. Are you going to be able to stop every man you date from fooling around with her? Probably not. Would you want to have a friend who you can't leave alone with your boyfriend? Probably not. Would this friend hesitate to sleep with your husband (when/if you are married)? Probably not. Finally, would you be able to sleep at night if you suspected her of sleeping with your man but couldn't prove it? Probably not.
2006-08-15 02:15:42 · answer #2 · answered by Answer Schmancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, NO!
The only way is to be honest - is there any of her other friends that think she' s a whore? If there are other's - talk to them about it - ask them how they feel about her sleeping around and ask them if they are willing to talk to her about it?
If they are - you should all get together and confront her (nicely and with a friendly, caring and warm atmosphere) but be straight and tell her that what she is doing is not right and there are many risks involved - get your facts straight!!!!
If there are boys who know about her sexual thrills - invite them too - this will definately shock her and bring her to her senses as well!
2006-08-15 02:10:14 · answer #3 · answered by Chellie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are concerned about her not being careful who she is having sex with. Tell her you are afraid she will ruin her life by getting an STD or becoming pregnant. Worse yet, she could end up with some obsessed wierdo who stalks her and hurts her. Go to her with an attitude of concern rather than just to tell her she is a whore. That will only promote hard feelings. Good luck.
2006-08-15 02:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by papag7222000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My experience is that you let her down easy. Say I really don't agree with your lifestyle choices. You need to keep your priorities and morals straight. Tell her about your concern and that you care what happens to her. Tell her she could become pregnant or get STDs and have her dreams ruined. If she knows that you care, then she'll be more willing to change. If you just tell her she's a whore, to her you seem like a ***** or are jealous of her and she'll just keep on doing what she's doing.
2006-08-15 02:08:49 · answer #5 · answered by Shayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe not in those words, but you can let her know that when the guys know she has a reputation then it goes all over and she will have a hard time finding a man that wants to be with her in a long term relationship. I slept around with a couple different guys a few years ago. When I was in my previous relationship, I didn't know he knew someone I slept with, then that person told him and we ended up breaking up over it, because his friends knew what I was like in bed and he didn't have me all to himself. It was very hard, because after we broke up I gave birth to his daughter, now he doesn't really have a relationship with her. See the point is I slept around like 9 years ago. I was with my dtr. father for 7 years before he found out, it will come to haunt her later in life. I can not take back what I did to screw up my life before, I am just grateful that I used protection and didn't end up getting any diseases. On a positive note-my new boyfriend knows about everything in the past and still loves me for the woman I am today.
2006-08-15 02:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by DispatchGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't start by calling her a whore , tell her how dangerous it is ,physically and emotionally , and that it doesn't make her look good as a person. Remind her that there is still a double standard ,guys that sleep are around are called players , females that sleep around are called HOES .
2006-08-15 02:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by catlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go with a casual conversation, not telling her direct, but saying something like " I sometimes feel I sleep with too many men, how do you feel that?". If she does not have a problem, then you shouldn't either, and if it still bothers you then find friends with the same moral opinion.
2006-08-15 02:08:05 · answer #8 · answered by lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. I have so many friends the same way and it drives me crazy. So far I havent really said anything. Its their decision. But if they talk about it and theres something that isnt right (like theyre sleeping with someone elses man or theyre getting hurt) I tell them its wrong
2006-08-15 02:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by lida 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be your friend, but you're not doing a good job being her friend!
Leave her alone, you jealous little madame. What she chooses to do is her own affair.
Maybe she is doing it because she is a little insecure, being told by a 'friend' that she's a whore isn't going to help, is it?
2006-08-15 02:06:15 · answer #10 · answered by CC...x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think first you need to define whore. In whose eyes is she a whore? Don't you think she knows who she is and what she does? Maybe she is happy who she is...maybe not. Did she ask you for your opinion? Personally I don't think it's 'Friendlike' to run down a friend. A good friend cares unconditionally .
2006-08-15 02:06:18 · answer #11 · answered by Zoey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋