This guy I know refuses to talk to me or be my friend.But he'll tell my roommate that he misses me and that he wishes that we were together. We sort of dated but it wasn't anything serious,well at least I didn't take it serious. He tells everyone that he wants to be with me and his friends will call me out of the blue to tell me this. But when I see him he act's as if I'm the black plauge or something. We're both 24 years old and I would have thought these game would be over with by now. Does he like me or is he just afraid of me or something? I would at least like to be his friend But don't know how to get him to just be normal.
2006-08-15 01:47:51 · 14 answers · asked by JEN33 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ok, could you be any cuter?? So you thought these games would stop at 24 eh? I'm 40 and the men are NOT any more mature....lol! I did find a good one, but to answer your question....He's a total chicken and for whatever reason (I'm guessing your beautiful with a strong personality) He wants you but then runs from you. The best thing you can do is just take on the "whatever" attitude with him and get on with your life. He will regret his "chicken" ways...hehehe, but that wont be your problem you will have moved on to a real man and left the little boy behind!!! Best wishes girlfriend!
2006-08-15 01:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Joeygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have hurt him the first time. Your "sort of dating" may have meant a lot to him. Is he shy?
It sounds like he is trying to get you to break the ice. If you say something to him he will feel like you are interested and you may see a whole new him.
The problem with that is he may like you for more than just a friend but has no idea how to approach you with that. After all you didn't take him serious the first time.
If he isn't able to step up and tell you how he feels knowing he will be rejected then telling you through his friends is his alternative.
Most self assured hot women are very scary to most men. It's a lot like wanting to be in favor with the queen of all the land but you don't dare risk rejection from her. Sound far fetched. Trust me it is not.
2006-08-15 08:58:46 · answer #2 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right about the games being over. They should be at this age so I'd put a stop to them. I would ignore the whole situation. Don't TRY to be his friend. When his friends call....tell them you'd appreciate them not calling anymore. When you see him, just say hi and keep doing what you're doing. Maybe he will decide to grow up one day soon!
2006-08-15 08:51:58 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he is very shy and unsure of his feelings for you. It sounds like he does care but he's afraid to approach you in fear of rejection.
Just be yourself and treat him the same. Try writing him a private letter and explain your feelings(if you have any for him). If you are not into him then tell him how happy the two of you are friends and that you hope it stays that way. Friends are hard to come by but relationships come and go.
Good luck
2006-08-15 08:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by peg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're only interested in being his friend then you should probably just walk away. Either he doesn't want to be your friend or even know you at all - that's why he ignores you - OR he's nuts about you and doesn't know how to deal with it. Thing is either way he doesn't want to be your friend. And if he wants you and you go and talk to him about it without wanting him you're only going to hurt him even worse because you will be directly rejecting him and then you won't end up being friends anyway.
2006-08-15 08:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by agliotti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a weirdo, he is way to old for this. I mean unless you broke up on horrible terms there is no reason for him to profess his want for you and then ignore you. He is acting childish, maybe that is why you never took it seriously in the first place. Don't waste time trying to be his friend!
2006-08-15 08:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by toobadfaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him, and tell him just what you have shared with him. We could all second guess, but we may be totally wrong. Best to talk directly to him and get the facts. Relationship take work. You must both talk and share your concerns with each other.
2006-08-15 08:51:21 · answer #7 · answered by Shayna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why don't u just approach him and tell him whatever he has to say good or bad to tell u and to stop acting like a teenager sending msgs letting everybody know ur business...
and if he doesn't admit to what the friend said then keep it moving and tell them to stop being the messenger...
2006-08-15 08:51:13 · answer #8 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is either too chickennnn to speak up orrrr there's another girl who has drawn his interest but wants u hangin on as well!!
2006-08-15 08:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by maria32greece 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, he is just in a stage of denile right now he'll get over it
2006-08-15 08:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋