My husband moved back home over a month ago after having an affair. He still lives out of his suitcases and hasn't unpacked yet. Is he planning on leaving again?
2006-08-15 01:32:56 · 53 answers · asked by blue eyes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe she dumped him and he's waiting for her to call him back. Maybe he's not sure how things are going to go for the two of you, so he's making it easier on himself. Maybe he's waiting to meet someone new. Maybe he's waiting on you to ask him. Maybe, maybe, maybe. The only person that can really answer this question is your husband. Have not fear, what have you got to lose? If it escalates into an argument and he leaves again, he was waiting for an excuse anyway. Let go and move on, stop blocking your blessings!
2006-08-15 01:47:01 · answer #1 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a man. He is waiting on you to unpack his bags, do his laundry, press and hand his clothes. But be careful, he may leave again when all his clothes are clean. Why don't you do yourself a favor and show him and his still-packed suitcases the door. A man who will cheat will do so over and over and over again. He will place you in danger of every STD out there...yuck.
2006-08-15 01:38:56 · answer #2 · answered by whirled_queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is still unsure of where he wants to be. Why unpack if you might just be packing up again. You need to sit down with him and discuss what is going on. Tell him you need him to decide to recommit or leave for good. Don't let this man play games with you!
2006-08-15 01:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by dolphin2253 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
t appears he is undecided as to what he wants to do! Why did he move back? Why did you take him back? It is not easy to trust a person who has cheated, some women find a way to manage it, I do not understand how? He has had a month to make his mind up, How do you know he has stopped seeing her? Can you live with him without having constant thoughts about where he is if he is late getting home, or thoughts about what he did with her or is it a him? I imagine he is confused and you are also. Who knows what he is thinking or what he will do! It makes no sense to me not to unpack, so I think he will leave if the opportunity arrives. Go to a counselor alone or together! Good Luck!
2006-08-15 02:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't move home again, and why would you want him to? He's got a plan and his suitcase plays a part. Save yourself and put him out with the trash.
2006-08-15 01:38:05 · answer #5 · answered by ButterflyB 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's something you need to ask him, not us. There are deeper issues here than how much dirty laundry is in his bags.
Then again he may just be lazy - offer to unpack for him and see if that strikes up a conversation.
2006-08-15 01:37:04 · answer #6 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well why has he moved back if he left you? did she have enough of him or did he realise the grass wasnt greener on the other side? did you beg him to come back and how long was he gone for?
i think maybe you both need to sit down and have an honest talk with each other about what you both want. you could be taking him back because you feel insecure and scared of life alone. the best thing i think is for you both to have space alone to think things through and to decide if you really want to work things out. i honestly think that the best thing for you would be to have time alone to thing what you want and to become a strong person. i hope you sort things out.
2006-08-15 01:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or he thinks you're going to kick him out. Sit down with him and have a serious talk. If you forgive him, let him know. Find out why he had the affair and why it won't happen again.
2006-08-15 01:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Kanga_tush2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You SHOULD ask him straight out if he is planning to stay or not. Im sorry hun, but it's hard to trust a man again after what just happened but i admire your patience and understanding. I really hope the two of you will be happy.
2006-08-15 01:42:14 · answer #9 · answered by joan_gozo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my first husband, and it turned out he was just looking for a place to crash after a fight with his "girlfriend". It really confused our kids and within a month, he left again. I would just ask him what's up to save you more possible heartache.
2006-08-15 01:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by kikibaby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋