I'm becoming a COMPUSIVE liar. HELP?

Question

I lie unnecessarily about silly things like not losing my mobile or buying a new pair of skates. I don't want to lie like that but i can't help myself. What can i do?

Answer 1

sorry i don't believe a word you are saying!

Answer 2

Are you compulsive or pathological? If it's simply a matter of a general propensity for compulsive behavior manifesting itself through a habit of telling lies (without reason), I think you can modify this behavior. There are a few decent suggestions already listed here. On the other hand, if you are pathological, I'm not sure that there is anything that can be done. I think pathological liars need to accept their situations and adapt. Find work that keeps you travelling, get used to not having long term attachments, never stay in one place too long. Nobody likes pathological liars, and if you stay in one place long enough, pretty much everyone will figure this out about you and make your life very difficult in one way or another. Best of luck!

Answer 3

Acknowledge why you lie. Often it is because one does not feel that they live up to others expectations. Other times, people feel like their life is not exciting or as good as others, so they inflate circumstances or events. Many times, people who lie have low self esteem. Don't sell yourself short. Just be the best person you can be and be yourself. You do not need to be someone you are not. Tell yourself and believe that you are good just the way you are and you do not need to pretend to be someone else. Honesty will leave you with a sense of peace. Lies leave you feeling unsettled. If you do not like who you are then you can always improve on yourself. Please remember to be true to yourself. We all have flaws and we all make mistakes and we all need to try to be better and better each step of the way in life. Don't beat yourself up...but do learn to be honest and work on self improvement, so you will love yourself. You are already on your way to success. The first step of change is identifying the problem. Now you can take this stumbling block in your life and make it a stepping stone. When you catch yourself tellling an untruth, stop and ask yourself, what would it hurt if I just told the truth. Remind yourself that if your honest that you will have peace. I believe in you.

Answer 4

Give a fiver to charity every time you lie.
I agree that lying is a very bad trait. If someone lies to me just once, I can't believe anything they tell me, so I stop talking to them. Lying should be reserved for politicians.
What will happen after a time is that you will start to believe your own lies. You will recall conversations, remember what you said, but not remember that it was a lie. Then your whole life becomes a lie, and you end up as one really effed up person

Answer 5

I have a friend that used to do that. Lie for no reason at all.

What I would suggest is set up a form of self punishment. Everytime you tell a lie, you need to police your self and take away something that you like to do.

If you catch yourself being a liar, then you need to take something away from yourself --- examples

If I catch myself being a liar, I will ground myself off my cell phone.
Or I will not go to the mall with my friends.

If you don't do it, all you are going to do is lose friends and hurt family that cares about you,.

No one like a liar.

Good luck,

Answer 6

im guessing your a male and probably a teenager (due to you mentioning the skates part!!)

Your mum will know you are lying anyway so it doesnt matter, shes just watching and waiting and then you will be grounded for a year hahahah

Anyway there must be a reason why the lying started. Think back and try to find the source of it, then you maybe able to solve it.

Answer 7

You actually need to seek professional help. The odd lie is "normal" but compulsive behavoir is an indicator of something on a grander level that could quite possible make you find yourself in a very uncomfortable even dangerous situation one day. Good luck.

Answer 8

As long as you don't start lieing about the big things in life that matter and always recognise when you are lieing you should be fine, its normal to tell little white lies to get yourself out of trouble, everyone does it to an extent. Its when you start blurring the lines between fact and fiction and start believing your own lies as truths that you should start to worry.

Answer 9

You're probably lying in order to avoid the consequences of the person finding out you're mobile is lost etc... You're going to need to understand why you're scared they'll find out; perhaps its going to cause an arguement - imagine the argument when they find out you've lied!

Try limit the things you now will cause problems and lead you to lying ... for example, stop taking too much cash out and then you'll stop buying things or ensure you check your bag for your mobile and valuables often in crowded places.

Answer 10

I'd stay stop lying, but if you're a compulsive liar, then I doubt anybody would end up believing you. I know it sounds horrible, but it's the only way I can put it.

It's easier said than done, but it has to be done before it escalates out of control.

Hope it helps.

Answer 11

Correct yourself. I've been there and I know the lies just sort of "pop out". When you say one and you have that moment of "Dammit! I just lied for no reason!" use that little charge of self-directed anger to break through the normal barrier and say out loud "No wait I DID lose my mobile. What the hell was I thinking?" Eventually you will start catching yourself beforehand, and then just stop lying altogether. It worked for me.