My girlfriend who I lived together with for almost 2 years, moved out. she says that she was unhappy and left. now she has forced me to sell our new house, she has no money, stress out all the time, living in a bad part of town and she is refusing my help. she says that she would rather live there then our beautiful 4/2 house that we have. she says that she had to go and she holds all this resentment for me. I feel horrible for her. she is in a bad situation, and I am broken hearted. everything that I do seems to make this whole situation worse not better. I love her and want her to come back home. We never had relationship problems that would justify this. she says that she cant come back to me and she thinks that I am this person that I'm not. I dont know what to do.
2006-08-15 01:19:48 · 24 answers · asked by boatsman13 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like she has already decided what she wants and there is nothing you can do about it. Move on with your life. Good luck!
2006-08-15 01:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely she is either with someone else or is suffering from some mental illness. Or she just wants out of the relationship. If her name isn't on the deed to the house tell her to go piss down a drain pipe. But if it is then you need to buy her half of the equity of the house from her not its actual market value. If she wants to live in a bad side of town then let her good ridance. You may still have feelings for her but chasing her with a stick isn't going to make her come back. Burn the damn thing and find someone better
2006-08-15 01:46:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's crazy, what else could it be. Seriously, have you tried talking to her to ask her where the resentment is coming from. You may be too overbearing, too doting and you've caused her to loose her sense of self. If you give her everything, how is she to know she has any value? It seems to me you have been putting her down and her upbringing. She has returned to her roots. The way to keep a person that is from an undesirable background, is to not keep throwing it in their face. Accept the differences and learn from them. Sometimes a person needs to prove to themselves and others that they are worthy and they can do things themselves. This, my dear, is so not about you, but more about her self discovery.
Keep you house, but get used to the idea that she may not be there with you. You can try to be friends, but you have to accept her they way she is, not try to change her.
2006-08-15 01:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, you do have relationship problems that would justify this - at least to her you do. You can't work them out right now if she is not willing to discuss them with you, so at this point, there isn't much you can do. If she doesn't want your help, just leave her alone for the time being. I'm sure she knows how to reach you when she wants to talk about it.
2006-08-15 01:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by Avid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she doesnt know what she wants by refusing your help it makes you look like the bad one shes out on street homeless what sort of gane is she playing. If you were not defacto and didnt buy house together then she has no rights to any of it. May be she has done the dirty on you thats why she left have you asked her why? Did she put anything in to the house maybe youve been had. Seek advise legally where your home is concerned if she left and doesnt want help don't concern your self its her life let her deal with it.
2006-08-15 01:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by a mother 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW! that is really strange??? if she doesnt want to be with you, there really isnt much you can do. You cant make someone love you or want to be with you. Sometimes you have to let them go. It is hard, i know. If she has no money, why do you have to sell the house? Get a roommate and move on with your life. You will find someone else who wants to be with you!!
2006-08-15 01:24:44 · answer #6 · answered by mml619 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 02:08:23 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is - is that you need to talk and it seems that she is not willing to do that. I feel badly for you. I don't know what to tell you b/c if she won't open up and tell you what is wrong, you have no way of knowing. Just try to hang in there and see if she changes her mind. I hope the best for you. Take care.
2006-08-15 01:50:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can do. She has made her decision and you have to live with it. You shouldn't push her and just give her the space and time she needs. She may be back and she may not, its best that you prepare yourself for the end of this relationship...as she has shown you already.
2006-08-15 01:33:18 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you let her get what is coming to her, no matter what you do a person learns from their mistakes but one who wont listen to logic must be a complete fool and trying to converse with a fool would make your mind go way outta place the best thing you can do is sit and watch and she thinks you are another person after two years sorry dude she never even understood you and what ever you might do now will make the situation worse just let it go..
2006-08-15 01:26:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a girlfriend for only 2 years and you bought house together??? that dont make sense.!! why would you by a house after only 2yrs of knowing each other and that one dont have money.???
that wasnt a wise choice on your part..
she has the choice not to have you help her. she dont want you in her life. let her go and time to let her go, stop worrying about her and get on with your life.
she is living her life and you are not in it. she is aloud to make this choice for HERSELF if she feels she is not happy.
this is not "confusing", if someone chooses to change their life they have that choice to change. and there is nothing you can do about her choice.
she is not coming back--she has made her choice for herself.!!!
respect her choice!!! and let her live her life.!!!
2006-08-15 01:31:28 · answer #11 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋