Beyond the ussual compliments, what else can be done? My wife has a poor self image. I love her and want to help her feel better about herself. She is tough to crack so the simple things don't work so well. I need to find some creative aproaches.
2006-08-15 01:19:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one can control someone else's mind and thoughts,no one can change someone else's behaviours unless she /he wants to change but you can influence her by showing your love ,your care,your respact ,support and encourage her."Look after or take care of her ,etc.must be avoided,never never say that to her.
She's such a lucky lady to have you stand by her.
Good luck and good wishes to you .
2006-08-15 04:16:39 · answer #1 · answered by canada2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's really great that you are willing to try to help. One of the nicest things I ever had someone say to me was that they thought I could do anything if I just really tried my best. It's not the usual kind of compliment, so I think it mattered more to me. It made me feel like I could try new things, which I had some trouble with in the past. And it was true--little by little I was able to handle things I never had before. As it became clear that I was getting better at these new things, this same person took the trouble to make small comments, like, "I see you can handle that now--two months ago you wouldn't have been able to. That's really impressive to see how far you've gotten already." It's like being a coach, really. You don't want to flatter as much as to notice all the things she is doing right, and point them out. Gradually she will see herself differently. It's an amazing thing, and she will love you for it.
2006-08-15 09:39:02 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're a sweetheart for caring about her like that. You must be a special guy.
Just be gentle and encouraging without going overboard. If she's felt this way for a long time, it will take time for her to start believing it.
Keep on loving her and letting her know how you really feel. Don't make up stuff. Only say what you really mean.
Sounds like patience is the key here.
2006-08-15 08:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, know that you can't change her. Second, don't placate her insecurities, acceptance from both her and you are key. Third, having low self esteem is a bad habit, have her practice positive affirmations, over a month period. It's hard to change our instant reaction, but over time our perspective can be altered and changed. Last, rent What The Bleep do we think we know..... it's a metaphysical approach to feel low, how and what of a cellular affect of negative energy. Interest stuff to say the least and I can't quite give it justice.
2006-08-18 16:00:06 · answer #4 · answered by Moto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heard the saying a man can make or break a woman... well you can do some simple things... tell her often how beautiful she is.... try love making more often.... ask her what she does not like about herself and tell her that is probably one of your favs about her... you can help build her up. Maybe she needs a day out... getting hair done, nails, something to help her feel better and more beautiful.
2006-08-15 08:48:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not something you can do, it has to come from within. She should probably seek a professional therapist to help her address her issues and help her turn that image around.
2006-08-15 08:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it in-depth, how people feel about their self image. Explain to her that when she doesn't like herself, how can she expect other people to like her. Sounds like she is using it to get attention from you possibly.
2006-08-15 08:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all you NEED to find the root of this issue why dose she feel like this it may be more than what you think and how long has she been dealing with this issue
2006-08-15 08:27:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find the things that make her feel like she is good at. and incourge them......go out of your way to get her to do them.
self esteem comes from within.
its that oship her off to the army. there they will drive it into your very soul.....lol
good luck......
2006-08-15 09:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has some problems that maybe you can't help with. Suggust counseling to her. Maybe they can help her.
2006-08-15 08:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋