married man's lust, please help !?

Question

33 yr old Married man. Blessed with 2 cute daughters.
I work in a different country and my family is back home for sometime.
Since I stay all alone in my flat, I felt the touch of loneliness. To my surprise I met
my x GF here last week , even she was surprised, As soon as I saw her i
Forgot all her past mistakes and for a moment I thought I am lucky to get
her here this time.Today morning I went to visit her for 5 minutes, ….she say she still loves me. I did not respond….I m getting tempted and may fall for her again and end in bed and then regret…I don’t want that to happen, Please I beg u all to give me some serious tips to divert from temptations. I am trying to stay away from her…but I can’t. She had cheated me before in our relation, irrespective of knowing that I am married, she still have feelings for me, …My family can join me only after 2 months. How do I control myself? I tried masturbating to kill my desire and to stay away, not helping…..confused and I hate myself now

Answer 1

Every time you feel that temptation picture the faces of your wife and daughters.Think about the hurt you will inflict on them and remember what your ex did to you before because she will do it again.A moment of pleasure is not worth what you will lose.

Answer 2

The very best way is to stay away. Don't answer the phone unless you know for a certainty it is your wife and\or kids calling. Don't go see her (your ex girlfriend) for crying out loud. You will end up looking like a jackass if you continue on this path.

I am having to doubt you truly love your wife. I say this because a person who is truly in love with their spouse would not even consider another person. You may look at an attractive woman, but you would not consider being with her.

What happens from here is entirely in your hands. I will tell you the same thing I told someone else who asked a similar question last night on this site, you are going to have to live with yourself and face your children for the rest of your life, so be very careful of the decisions you make.

Answer 3

look, if i were you i would never fall for that woman, why? because of 2 reasons:

1) You have a family and 2 lovely daughters. Why would you want to destroy your own family and their future? Just think of it this way, if they know that you have turned against their backs, they will hate you forever and no matter what you do to make up for your mistake, they will never forgive you. In their hearts, you are an irresoponsibe father who cannot be trusted. Also, do you think your wife will ever forgive you for doing such a thing? She's at home taking care of two girls, and you know that is not an easy task. I think if you truly love your wife and family, you would know how to stay away from that woman. For your sake (so you don't have to feel guilty once you meet your family) and also for their sake( so that your 2 girls will grow up knowing that they have a responsible father and in turn, they will respect you).

2) It's obvious that the woman does not love you.. why? if she loved you then she would not leave you... if she loved you that much then she would have learned to appreciate and forgive your mistakes. And since you said she cheated on you before, it's possible for her be cheating on others too. Do you really want to sleep with a dirty whore? If she can sleep with you tonight, she can sleep with another guy t/m. Don't waste your time on her and risk your own family. Just remember that she's just not worth it anymore..

It's obvious that you do not love that woman at all and all you want right now is someone to satisfy your sexual desires...
I think what you need to do at this point is to get in touch with your family more, install a web cam at home, give them more phone calls etc. You will feel better once you have the right mind set.. also if masterbasting is not quite working i suggest purchasing some sex toys or dolls to help you release your sexual stress. Once you have gone to the point where you feel like you don't even want to masterbate, just think about the woman, i bet at that point you don't even want to see her.. since she is of no use anymore...

Answer 4

Bleccch! She's an 'X' for a REASON!!!

And, if you do, you must NEVER confess it to ANYONE!!!
NOT even http://confessions.com

But, being a blabbermouth, and, able to enjoy the feel of having conquered and subjugated a real MAN, whom she couldn't really have, EVER, the 'X' will call your wife the next morning, as soon as you go to work, so SHE can GLOAT on all the misery she has caused for two very lovely little children, and a very trusting woman and wife, who actually CHOSE YOU(!) over some others she STILL remembers, who DIDN'T sleep with their 'X' girlfriends!!!

This is simply another case of allowing fantasy to impair better judgement!

So, you really want to SCREW it all up??? Go see an action thriller movie, eat the popcorn, visit some co-worker male friends.

Tell the X that you have a warm spot in your heart, for the memory of what 'might have been' but, that train has already departed, and you are on the 'bullet' now! It will kill you to try to switch trains, and destinations, at these speeds!

She WILL find another, and personal integrity, someday, we all hope. Or, she will continue to mess with men, and screw up their lives!

Whatever are YOU thinking??? That YOU have the strength and integrity of personal values to stand strong?

Answer 5

Seriouelly, I don't understand what your saying. I know it sounds like I have to compassion for this... but I don't. Your a grown man. Just don't stick your willy in her sabrina and you'll be fine. Don't contact her or cheat on your wife. I mean HOW HARD IS THAT? So what your body wants to do things to another person. Does that mean you have to give in? Are you a spoiled child? And let the record show, your wife... yeah she's resisting temptations also. Do you think your the only man who has ever graced this earth in her eyes? Trust me fella, she's probably getting a lot more propositions than you are and if your LUCKy she's turning them down. Think about that and how it would make you feel if she was banging the mail man next time a "woah is me I want to give into childish lust" moment kicks in. You will destroy your family and your children will learn that their father is more worried about his wants than their needs.

Answer 6

Feelings are just gonna get in the way, keep up the good work! You are just the kinda person who us married women need around, it works out perfect, you can have these disgusting men, but I get the money and the house and all the other perks! Any man who cheats on his wife, deserves you, so Im all for it, but keep feelings out of the bedroom, as you will only add drama into your life, and keep in mind, you will never have this guy as you are exactly what he is to you and that is a sex object, you are nothing more then a blow up betty doll with a pulse to this married guy and many others, so remember. So my advise is simple, I think you should just stop sleeping with this one married guy that you have feelings for, but keep sleeping with the others. I know their are many women who are gonna come down onyou, but not me, because this is what happens when women dont take care of their men, their will always be someone like you who is gonna be thier to do their dirty work.

Answer 7

Don't know what religion you are, but Satan is really working on you right now. Get down on your knees and pray that God will help you. It is just what you said, LUST, and you must stay away from this woman. You have everything to lose and not much to gain. She can walk away, but you, if your wife finds out, you have lost everything. Is it that hard to understand, that you are weak, and need the almighty to help you. Go to church, help others, get involved in other things. You are putting too much attention on your sexual desires, and just try to do other things for distraction. Why don't you write a letter to your wife and kids and tell them how much you miss them and love them. Put their pictures up in front of you and remind yourself that they are everything. This woman knows that you are married, and yet she keeps after you. This is just a game to her, and you are falling for it. There are other things other than your PENIS, so leave it alone and get out and do someting with your life until your wife gets there. Good luck. . .

Answer 8

Well, let's see you said that this girl cheated on you in the passed and that is why she is your ex. You are a married man now. So don't cheat on your wife with her or any body else for that part. You should love your wife enough to not want to cheat on her.Just think of the reunion you and your wife will have when you get to be with her again. Don't let that be marred by the haunting memory of cheating on her with this other woman. And YOU need to stop going to visit with her cause one thing will led to another. Think about the reunion with your wife instead of think about this other person. Be a man, not a mouse!Stop and think how you would feel if your wife was going to visit her ex like you did this person and was thinking the same thing about him as you are this person, would you like it. Think only of your wife!! Don't give into lust!! I think your wife deserves better than that.

Answer 9

if there is one observation i discovered to be true about man is that they think about 2day and 2day only, especially when it comes to sex. have you ever tried thinking about 2moro and maybe the future. If you focus your mind on what you could loose if you were to sleep with your ex Gf i promise you u wil stay away from her 4 good becos you would realise that you could loose your whole life, everything you've ever worked hard for. Is she really worth that much. from what you are telling me, I dont think so.So i admire the fact that u admit that u have a problem. it is a start. all u have to do is work on the solution. and you already know the solution. STAY AWAY FROM HER!!!!! Find a hoby, take dance lessons or singing lessons, anything that will keep your mind off her.

Answer 10

Let's see - she's not real trustworthy (and you are obviously understanding how she could be that way). When your family shows up....how much trouble can she cause? She says she still has feelings for you? That could be trouble. This isn't about "just sex" --- it's about emotions too. You will be leading yourself into some trouble. You obviously know this. You must keep telling yourself over and over "think with your BRAIN" --- over and over and over until you are sick of yourself. Go rent the movie "Fatal Attraction" --- get it NOW (even if you've seen it before) ---- that should do the trick. Good luck.