should i let my daughter go?

Question

my 15 year old daughter wants to move in with her father so she can go to another school in the fall for her sophmore and rest of her high school years. she said she would come home on the week end but i doubt it,i think it maybe a boy involved what to do?

Answer 1

let her go...she is old enough to decide for herself.

Answer 2

There has got to be a reason why she wants to go to another school? You need to be able to find out why. It could be that she is being bullied, maybe there is a boy that she met that goes to that school, maybe she feels she cannot open to you for some reason. There is definitely a reason for it. If she is comfortable living in your home why would she want to leave? It could be something you are doing, she feels she may not be able to talk to you, maybe you're not approachable. I say you talk to her about it. Ultimately it is your decision and she is 15 and not an adult whatsoever. If you feel this school is better for her then by all means don't let her go. You are the mom. Secondly it is not true that if you do not let her go to this school that she would hate you. It will seem like that at first but when they get older they will understand why you did the things you did. I know I did - and at the age of 19 I realized everything my mother did was in my best interest. Don't be too strict now, if you like the school she is at now make her stay, anything else down the road be easy on her of course depending on what it is

Answer 3

Dear Madam,
Having gone through that stage a few years ago myself, i would suggest that the best thing to do is to have faith in your daughter and let her know it. If you show her that you trust her and that you will support her all throughout the way, she will start feeling guilty if there is a boy involved. There could be a few possible outcomes, a. If there is a boy involved, she might tell you out of guilt. b. If there is no boy involved, your relationship would be strengthened further. c. If there is a boy involved and she is doing this for him and her self interest blinds her guilt, well there is nothing much that you can do really than to let her go but with a reminder that you are always there to support her. Transparency and frankness is always appreciated by us kids.

Answer 4

Why don't you try (hard if so...) to communicate with the father and let her go under the condition that she spend her time studying and not seeing boyfriends. On the other hand...why can´t she see a boyfriend at weekends?
I think that you just have to stay in contact with your "ex"; your daughter´s father, or you will never know what is happening.
(Hm mm...your daughter i 15. When did YOU fall in love for the first time? No harm in that providing she manages school)

Answer 5

Oh what a heartbreaking place you are in. I'm a mom and I am having a rough time with my last one leaving home and he's almost 18 now ---won't be long before boot camp though. :(.
I'm sorry you're in this position. The problem is....if you know in your heart that she will be safe with her dad (assuming you think she will be), the ONLY unselfish thing for you to do as her mom is to let her go. How far away will she be? Can you go see her? Yes, at 15.....you can almost bet a boy and other friends she meet will get in the way. You must remember how important our friends were then, right? Hang in there. I know it will hurt and my guess is you're probably half in tears writing this question. My heart goes out to you.

Answer 6

I went thru the same thing when my daughter was 16..the difference is her dad and i lived a block away from each other...I so didn't want her to move..but...why fight it?...I got her to agree that if she started getting into trouble she would move back home...well she lived with her dad less than a month, she was home again...I think at the time she was happy we'd made that deal...it was an "out" for her from her dads house...grass always looks greener on the other side...until your there...

Answer 7

Yes let her go coz its good for her carrer and she become self dependent too and she will learn each and every day and also she realise the fact of life to be alone .
You keep in touch with her and take care of her as your a mother and behave like a friend so she should tell u everything.Trust in your daughter.

Answer 8

Let her go on a temporary trial basis, that is if you feel this is a good enviorment for her to be in. Keep the door open for her at home. If it is a boy, at 15 it will not last forever, she will learn her lesson and return home on her own.

Answer 9

Sit down with her and talk it over properly find out why she wants to move schools could it be that she's having problems with bullying where she is? get her to make a list of pro's and con's of living with each of you and let her make her decision at 15 she's old enough to know who she wants to live with. I hope things work out which ever option she chooses.

Answer 10

does her father want her to move with him?
what would he do , IF there is a boy involved.??

how long has she lived with you? if her whole life, then:

I would say : NO, dont let her go. let her be mad, she will get over it. when school starts where she is at now.

I have a 16yr daughter and if she decided to move in with her dad, I would tell her : NO, AND LET HER BE MAD FOR AWHILE.

Answer 11

15 years old dear is a good age to start trusting in her in such things even if there is a boy involved, but if she didnt keep her word to visit you in the week ends then you need to stop her and make it right .
best wishes dear
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