Is there really any point in marriage nowadays?

Question

We don't want kids, we're not religious, so what would be the point?

Answer 1

A good question! The real spirit of being married is no longer there particular in the West. The institution of marriage is not sacred as it use to be once. People want now days simply fun and fun and no commitments. Marriage is a great responsibility a discipline. I have come across many studies where it is proven that married people are a lot happier and live longer, it also showed the kids feel emotionally secured and stable when they have been brought up by both the parents in an secured environment. However this is a age of fast food culture there is no patience any more, this is a age of temptations and illusions either it be in the shape of Hollywood or civil liberties. The traditions that once kept a family united are dis mental today. I am sorry to paint a very depress picture but sadly this is the reality of today. However there is one thing we do have and could never loose and that is HOPE in goodness.

Answer 2

Social values are dictated by the economy.

Your viewpoint suits the economy just fine - if there are more single/divorced people then these people require individual housing, and to buy all those individualistic products that define them. More money spent.

Marriage often means one house, and one partner doesn't necessarily have to work. Less money spent.

Marriage is inexplicable to capitalism, just as most of religion is because its all about subsistance. Subsequently, as the religious interpretation of existence has been replaced by the capitalist/materialist one, marriage has come to mean less and less. Its meaning has been significantly deflated: if you cheat, you're no longer disobeying God, your partner, your children, your culture, you're just disobeying an outmoded tradition. And if you don't "feel" for your partner, cheating can then be justified, and the children always stay with the mother, don't they?

From what you've written, I'm guessing that in order to compensate for not having a religious interpretation of your existence, you're devoutly capitalist. I think you define yourself through products and your job. You probably have a big car or some other product that says more about you than a conversation ever could.

If you don't get married, then when eventually you are tempted (capitalism is all about tempting you to buy what you don't have), dissolving the relationship will be that much easier!

Answer 3

It is sad to see a question like this. So you don't want kids, you are not religious, what about commitment, what about spending the rest of your life with the person you love, working for things you both want. If you don't marry, then you will always have to make sure everything you have together is included in a will. And will have to have power of attorney for each other. You will not get each others social security or pension. or any items that may be in the name of your significant other. You can not get the family leave act if one of you is seriously ill. You may not be able to get health insurance for each other, which will cost you both more money. If you don't have the proper paperwork in line, you risk having a family member come in and take over, burial and property. Since if there is no marriage then you have no right to make these decisions. But if you don't care about those things and want to live separate lives instead of a life as one union..then don't get married. But if you are not willing to make the commitment, then are you really committed to this relationship..if not they why ask this question?

Answer 4

Oh, so its only people who are religious or want kids that get married, funny we have no kids, through choice, believe in god but not religious or go to church, the point to marriage is wanting to make a commitment to each other for life, if you don't want to be bothered with commitments no point been together either.

Answer 5

i imagine marriage desires to regulate. possibly it will be for 'words'. First might want to be a 2-3 years time period with the alternative to resume. After that, possibly 5 years words. And on the end of every time period, if both companions do no longer comply with proceed the marriage, then it truly is absolved. i imagine that could want to get an rather good type of human beings out of undesirable marriages that they were given into even as the were, in essence, childrens and did not recognize what course their existence might want to take. And what course their mate's existence might want to take...

Answer 6

I think it's your life so go by your own rules!!!!

Don't feel that you have to conform to the 'norms' like having kids and getting married just cos other people expect you to.

You can stll be committed to each other without having a crappy piece of paper to prove it, that isnt worth much as you can get a divorce so quick these days...

Answer 7

Friendship and sex.

By the way, you're totally selfish to not want to have children. PURE selfish. You have no idea what you're missing out on.

You better not have an abortion if you get pregnant. You two can go get yourselves FIXED so that won't happen, or adopt them out like two married idiots.

Besides all that, you guys can go on cruises, trips, start a band together, whatever.
There's plenty to do without kids.

Good luck confused!

Answer 8

Well, I really hate that you feel that way, but I'm very happily married with children that I love more than anything. I have 3 beautiful children that I wanted more than life itself. Also, just an added note....we also go to church and have lots of religion too.

Answer 9

I have been contemplating this question!!

I really love my partner, but dont want kid etc, but I really would like to get married - but so many marriages break up and I dont want that to happen to me - so are we better off not gettinf marries after all!

Answer 10

I lived with my husband for 9 years and we were perfectly happy, then we decided to marry. We are still as happy as we were but we also know that we have the protection of the courts should anything happen to either one of us. It also showed our committment to each other.