My husband and I have worked things out and I hope we are going to be ok now. However, I still can't get this other guy off of my brain. I think of him all the time and find myself picking up the phone to call him knowing his wife is home, but i truly do love my husband. Any advice?
2006-08-15 00:23:31 · 14 answers · asked by angel23amy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You seem to be infatuated. This other guy is married leave him alone and concentrate on working things out with your hubby. If you really love him the infatuation will goo away.
2006-08-15 00:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Lili 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You know girl , it's been a question asked by lots of people at one point or another in their life . Songs have been written about it and poems would fill a volume as thick as a Sears catalog. You say that you and your husband have worked things out - So it seem to me that this is been a factor in your marriage in the past . So now that you have worked things out and he is counting on you to keep your agreement , this is the chance to turn over a new leaf and concentratre on making it work for you too. Give it a chance and always remember that the good things in life are gifts from God himself - so you can be sure that your help is coming from the power source of life . He never fails to point you in the right direction . So spend time each day talking to the Lord in prayer. Its the most powerful thing in the world . God bless you and put a cover over the phone that says " Not today Phone - I'm way too busy thinking of how to make my husband happy and proud of me "
Might sound a little corny , but it works .... that's the important thing .
2006-08-15 08:01:24 · answer #2 · answered by newkirkb52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can be in love with 2 people at the same time. Just remember, the grass always seems greener on the other side. You are thinking of this other guy all the time, because he is remembered as the fun guy. But remember, your husband is with you and not this other guy that would use you and/or not treat you the same as your husband does.
If you left your husband for this guy, down the road, you may get bored of him and start thinking of your husband all the time.
It sucks... just try to make the best of it and sometimes when you are being intimate with husband, pretend its that other guy in the dark... just don't say his name.
2006-08-15 08:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the lust monkey is riding your shoulders. You've been tested and are STILL on the verge of failure. You aren't helping yourself better by still thinking incessantly of him, habitually wanting to call with NO regard to your husband nor his wife and by asking this question which would only serve to validate your love/lust thang.
All that being said, I have been in love with someone I couldn't have while both of us had someone else. It is a situation from which I would encourage you to RUN WITH YOUR LIFE and all the energy you could muster! Run girl! DO NOT look back. Do not check in with this guy! Do not think you married the wrong person! Do not fantasize about him! Do not compare your husband to him! Do not think about what could've been! Do not imagine you spending your retirement with him after your spouses both pass! Do not do this anymore. Simply don't look back. If you do, you've worked NOTHING out with your dear husband. Get right.
2006-08-15 07:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sleek 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FORGET THE OTHER MAN!!!
IF you trully loved your husband you'd respect him and be loyal to him and DROP THE OTHER MAN.
I loved two men at once for the first two years of my marriage and it was plain HELL. honey, please don't do this. You'll regret it.
I very luckily have a very forgiving husband. No, I never had an affair.. but my heart was elsewhere.
You are being very selfish, sweetie. Thinking only of what you want. This instant gratification. You KNOW it will get you no where, so why flirt with it? Why walk the line? Why tempt it? What will you gain? Only sorrow, heartache, loss, confusion and frustration, and you'll lose what's most important to you: your family.
Don't sacrifice it for some other man you can get over if you really want to.
Just don't think about him. Pray to forget him. Start thinking of all the BAD things about him. How ugly he is (come on, I know you can do it), how rude he is, how dumb he is, etc. Just dwell on the bad stuff big time and start looking at all the lovely and wonderful and great things about your man. your heart will begin to change.
Another big thing is to just start serving your husband out of pure love. It will teach you to love him even more.
Also, what helped me, was just trying to adore all the LITTLE things about my husband. I would notice the smallest things about his personality, body, everything, and just ADORE it.
Now I ADORE him and could care less about that other man. Glad I didn't mess that one up!
Anyway, time helps, and doing everything you can to prevent from seeing him, talking to him, etc.
Good luck, girl, and DO THE RIGHT THING. :)
2006-08-15 07:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i am a woman and have been on the other end of this mess... It was no fun from where I stood. My man finally realized that home was where he needed to be not with her. Please for your husband and his wife leave him alone. She is so hurt right now. i think that it is the excitement from your bf that your husband does not give you....Please try and think of all involved not just you..
2006-08-15 11:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if they are from different categories! Ex. love a wife and love a your child! You could love youre kids! But never a wife and a mistress in the same time!
2006-08-15 07:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jerdy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lot of people say you can't love two at one time but that not true.If it not some then i have live a lie.
2006-08-15 07:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u cant be in love with 2 persons at the same time..
what the heck?ur both married...dont be a home wrecker!please?
2006-08-15 07:27:55 · answer #9 · answered by too pretty to handle 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
In a drama yes, in real life, you are asking for trouble, Be sensible & wake up!!
2006-08-15 07:29:32 · answer #10 · answered by George 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋