I adopted a black baby a while back and He is 17 and hasn't had a job yet. He is really buying into the whole rap/gangster culture and just wants to rap and wear clothes that don't fit him. What can I do to keep him from being a drain on society like 80% of black youth in america?
2006-08-15 00:03:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Say that if he wants to be treated like an adult he should behave like one - contributing to the house by doing chores and financially as appropriate with his schooling.
If you have brought him up correctly (you mentioned 'baby'), then help him finish his schooling and worry about that before he has to worry about getting a job as well. If he is not at school, then he should be doing something productive with his time. If he can't get a job, maybe he should volunteer somewhere.
2006-08-15 00:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by claude 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How far back did you adopt him? A while back can't be 17 years?
Anyway, at 17 he is pretty much an adult in the eyes of the law.
You need to tell him that the rap culture and the clothes don't fit in with your life style, get him back into school or firmly tell him to get a job to contribute to the family. Unfortunately, he'll probably do what most do, don't listen.
Then use tough love and show him the door. If he's buying into the gangster/rap culture, then that's what he will be. A drain.
2006-08-15 00:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your question is total BS invented only to get a point across that your not man enough to simply state yourself. Most teens are rapped up in some sort of "sub culture" temporarily. And most of them are fairly lazy and one track minded. How ignorant of you to label one ethnic group. Fool!
2006-08-16 01:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by deedleydee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me be the first to call BS here.
Not even a nice try.
First of all, most teenagers are pretty lazy ( slacker generation). IF this story is even remotely true, he will grow out of it as soon as he needs to earn his own money. Stop giving your kids money once they are old enough to earn it themselves..
2006-08-15 02:00:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he turns 18, give him the option of paying you a minimal rent if he wants to stay with you, or else move out on his own.
My Dad did this to me, and it was the best life lesson I ever learned.
2006-08-15 01:54:27 · answer #5 · answered by metrobluequeen1 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well stop doing for him .Let him see how thimg may have been if you would not have came in to his life.i t doesn.t get easer i know they have a mind of there own at that age .GOOD LUCK GOD BLESS
2006-08-15 01:55:47 · answer #6 · answered by LONA R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he need a job
2006-08-15 01:47:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋