Why do we have such a high divorce rate in this country?

Answer 1

We have a high divorce rate because we do not mean what we say in our marraige vows.

Do you really want to stay with your spouse through better or for worse? What if he's a dog and and treats you like crap? Where does that come up in the vows. All you said was for worse. there was no ...unless... yet we really know that there are a ton of unlesses, just that we don't say them.

People are marrying for reasons like happiness and love, and forget about the responsability part. Once Americans aren't HAPPY anymore, they want a divorce. Where in the marraige vows did you promise to make the other person happy?

Let's just say what we mean in our vows:
I promise to love, honour, and cherish you, through sickness and health, as long as your sickness is not alcoholism or addiction, richer or poorer (as long as our poorness isn't your fault, like you're bad at managing money or you aren't a hard enough worker, or able to keep a job, or can't buy me what I need in life) better for worse (but it better be for the better, because if we fight a lot, or you treat me bad, or we don't agree on things, or we don't have a lot in common anymore, or our lovelife isn't what it should be, or any other cause for not being totally elated and happy with this marraige) until death do us part (or one of us decides that we are no longer dedicated to this union) Amen.

My point? Relationships start out with Love, fluffy love and full of excitement, hopes and dreams. Then life keeps on going and you realize you are tied forever to someone that is not YOU and can't fulfill EVERY or sometimes ANY of your expectations of them. The truth is, marriage is about responsability, a promise you made to someone. To stick together through thick and thin. Not just when it's convenient. That's the misconception Americans have today.

Answer 2

Can anyone really imagine someone on their wedding day guessing the shelf-life of their spouse and planning the divorse? Everyone goes into marriage believing it's forever. They all mean those vows on that day for better or worse. Marraige has remained the same but the people who enter it are changed. Reguardless of the age people once got married, people get married too young. They don't have the maturity to understand what changes life will deliver, they don't understand love or it's limitations. There is no motivation for a woman to stay in a marriage, she will often be better cared for in divorce. There is no motivation for a man to remain in a marriage when he's unhappy, women can now provide for themselves, they don't need us.

Answer 3

I think we live in a 'disposable society(my words)'. I first noticed this when I worked at an international airport for (31years). I'm Canadian so often I would work at the gate for US bound flights.You would notice in the holding room that the litter would be everywhere...Americans just thought everything was disposable ..paperback books, hard cover books, not a problem --just left on the seat beside them of the floor after boarding...Completely disposable...someone else would correct the problem afterward for them....I think that we tend to view marriage as much the same way...a disposable commodity...Also I think we live in a society of instant gratification...a newer better model of everything is always available...By no means am I trying to slam US people or created nationalistic animosities...Canadians are far too like americans to lecture on those those distinctions...this was just somethng that I noticed over ther years.

Answer 4

I don't know what country you are talking about, but in general divorce rates are getting high all over the world.
Reasons are plenty and it is not that easy to identify. For the region that I live in, divorces are basically because the parties tend to pretend or are not being themselves before marriage.

Answer 5

Because people have become quitters. Instead of working problems out, they just say oh well I'll quit and marry someone else. Also divorce is no longer frowned upon in a way that it was years ago. Nowadays its socially acceptable to be divorced.

Answer 6

I think Wolf said it all with out even realizing it "Shelf Life of your spouse!" That and people are to lazy to work at it. Back to shelf life that just gave me a headache! That concept I can not wrap my mind around! I checked my bottom and there is no date on me.

Answer 7

ppl now days are getting more shallow so they find some one purdy, marry them and then get to know them only to realize that their not made for each other.(its cheeper just to keep dating!) my mother all ways said live with some one for at least 5 years before you consider marriage and i think that is a good base to stick to but remember as you get older ppl change.

Answer 8

a lot of people get married too young or too quickly. and getting drunk in vegas is really dangerous to getting married to a stranger and getting a divorce, and celebrities continually get a lot of divorces.

Answer 9

Life is short. Every body needs some changes. Could you eat every day pasta? I can't. Every day the same. Doesn't have any sense.

Answer 10

Because most people are in Sin.

They have taken GOD and HIS SON out of the equation, and are left with trying to fill the void, with lust and other diversions, and that leads to infidelity and other vices...

Putting GOD and HIS SON, JESUS CHRIST in your life, wont mean you will have a better life, it will mean that you will have a better afterlife.

But you will have a solid foundation in which to base your life on...In this life.

I wish you well..

Jesse