I am married and have 2 children. But my husband does not loves me. He only uses me. He is very rude with me.?

Question

I am married for 14 years and have two kids aged 10 and 8. He had an affair with my sisters daughter and with others also. He is waisting money on others. He will be with them for the whole day without going to office. Everybody knows about these things but nobody wants to tell anything to him because he is very rude and he has no shame. He abuses me for small small things. I have to do all the work at home as well as at office. He doubts me . He is repeating his mistakes and he doesn't want to change. He will never keep his mobile phone outside and ofcourse it will be on a silent mode. I have no right to ask why you are doing like this. He locks his almirah all the time and keeps the key always in his pocket. He is not good looking. Because of finance problem I married to a person who is not good looking. It was my decision to marry him. Before marriage he was after me. I afraid, he beats me infront of my children. He tells wrong about me to all and he convince other

Answer 1

And?

Answer 2

Follow the good wife guide.

Have dinner ready. Most men are hungry when they come home
Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking.
Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him.
Clear away the clutter.
Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.
Prepare the children. wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all the noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.
Be happy to see him.Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.
Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.


Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquillity where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

Don't complain if he's late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night.
Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

A good wife always knows her place.

Good Luck

Answer 3

If you leave him, make sure your money situation is right. Child support doesn't pay sh00 these days. If you stay, the hell with him put his butt on ignore and get u a lil play toy on the side. Every time your hunny tries to diss you go to the phone and dail the new man...chill and let nature run it's course, From the sounds of things you hubby will be leaving you eventually. So be patient, get some self esteem about ur self already.

Answer 4

Leave him its the best thing you could ever do for yourself and your kids. Do you want your kids growing up seeing how your husband treats you do you want your children to treat their spouses (later on in life) the way he treats you? It takes a lot of guts to get up and leave I should know I left my boyfriend of 2 years and a bit just this weekend and I have a 18 month old too. Why be unhappy and don't ever let someone use you. You deserve happiness and to be loved. You can do it!

Answer 5

He is using you financially? then get rid of him, and try to live with your 2 children alone, as long as you can support them and yourself.
Or he is using you sexually? try to talk to him and convince him to treat you in a better way.
Ask yourself, why did he marry you, if he doesn't love you? For your Money, then get rid of him.
If not, he married you coz you are a nice person, matching with him, ... etc.,
then try to find out, what has been changed, what is missing now after having two children, was he rude with you before the marriager? or just after?
Think deep honestly with yourself, and you'll get your problem resolved.

Answer 6

Sounds like he is a bully to me .....stand up to him and tell him he is causing hurt and you are fed up with it.
Don't be afraid to move on and tell him you consider this as an option. You are worth more. It might waken his senses.
Also if you take control of your life and what you are prepared to accept or not accept it will make you feel so much better.

Answer 7

Since you have children, your first priority is their well being. Is your husband verbally/physically abusive? If so, you can get a separation until he can get his issues in order. It's not healthy for your kids to be exposed to this kind of behavior.

Answer 8

Make a run my dear and forget about love he will always step on your heart.I believe that you can look after you self and if you can`t get some help,but just get out of there for your kids sake also.!!!!!

Answer 9

You need to think of yourself and your children, you can't live with a man who doesn't love you and your kids can't have their dad not loving their mom. Get out. The sooner the better. I'm sure you have people you can turn to :)

Answer 10

some times guys think they have it all and can treat their wife like crap what if you went to visit a family member for 2 weeks with out him let him fend for him self for 2 weeks see what its like make sure you take the kids I wouldn't leave them home with him .

Answer 11

maybe its ultimatum time,,if you can tell him you dont want to be with someone who doesnt love you and if it is true would he be interested in counselling,(if you want to of course),if you are very unhappy and have had enough it may be time for a break so you can think things through,given time he may realise he needs to change,but for any real change something must happen,,talking,seperating,divorcing,,decide what you want from it all and start the ball rolling.