how can i make my family believe dat a boy n gal can be good frenz n so they must not take it othrwise?

Question

my question is indeed problem of most gals in india as people here are not so broad-minded

Answer 1

.YA HAVE THIS PROBLEM..I CANT TELL ABOUT THE GALS NUMBERS IN MY CELPHONE..THEY ARE JUST FRENDZ...
BUT AM A BOY STILL HAVE TO DO IT...
YOU SHOULD RESPECT YOUR PARENTS VIEWS..ACCEPT THE SITUATION YOUR ARE LIVING IN...COZ THEY ARE ALSO RIGHT SOMEWHAT...

MEET BOY OR YOUR MALE FRNDZ ONLY IN SCHOOL OR COLLEGE NOT AT HOME OR ETC...COZ THEY ARE ALSO RIGHT SOMEWHAT...JUST CAN'T TRUST BOYS..TAKE MY WORD..WE ALL ARE SAME...

BUT THE BEST SOLUTION IS accept the condition where you are.....donot revolt against them but understand them...they are also right to some extent as they care for you...

JUST REMEMBER YOUR LIMIT...DO NOT ANYTHING WHICH CROSSES THE LINE..

TELL YOUR FRNDS ABOUT YOUR SITUATION..THEY WOULD UNDERSTAND.. AND ADJUST .....even try to talk with your parents...
take your mom into confidence..it would be easier....women are easy to manipulate and also your relation with mom must be better ....daughters share all with moms...


AND WHAT ABOUT YOUR FEMALE FRIENDS..there toh no restriction na....so get along with them....

AND JUST IF YOU CAN'T CONTROL ...JUST HIDE FROM YOUR PARENTS ....LIKE ME...
AS LONG AS YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT DOING ANYTHING WRONG ITS O.K

Answer 2

1. Move to America. But I must warn you, all the jobs are being sent to India. 2. Watch the movie "When Harry Met Sally". It will tell you about that. 3. A boy and a gal, CAN be good friends, however, sex will always be in the picture. 4. Tell your parents you are gay. That's the only way. :-) Good luck.

Answer 3

No man and woman can ever have just a friendship. When women want to solve a problem, they talk it out to other women. Men will keep the problem to themselfs, or maybe talk with a very close friend.

Sex will ALWAYS be an issue between men and women having a friendship.

If you can get a copy of the movie "When Harry met Sally" watch it- its the best social commentary on what you've just asked ever made. And its very funny

Answer 4

Being that the older parents in India were the ones who chose the lifetime partners for their children, it is now, in today's world, hard for them to change something that has been a sacred part of their ancestorial yesterday.

All good things are worth waiting for!

Time is a teacher, eventually your parents will see the changes taking place, and things will change.

Just be patient, they have lived this life all of their lives, as well as the lives of their families that have long been gone.

It is hard to overcome a family tradition, it takes time, trust, love, and belief in new ideas, but patience is a virtue that your parents will be proud of you for having.

Answer 5

If is a thing called honor. Your parents in India watch over the girl to make sure she is pure when she marries because the family name is at stake. If she is a virgin both sides of the family get something out of it. They give gifts to each other for both parties involved. This is a real thing in India(the honor of the family) If a girl is not a virgin, the husband or the father can kill you for your dishonestly.. Get the picture.. Honor your family name and do what is right by them. Keep yourself pure... Zella

Answer 6

it is not the question of broad mind or narrow mind. India has a very firm foundation of its culture & morals. here still u find most of the marriages are successful, still there is arranged marriages, still u find joint family system etc. the indian culture is fantastic. our parents are born & brought up in such atmosphere here still the girls remain virgins till they get married. so, naturally the parents try to safeguard their daughters which is very very good. so, u must have patience with your parents. if your friendship with the boy is just friendship , bring him home, whatever u do in hiding will bring doubts in your parents' mind.introduce him to your parents,make him a family friend. your parents should have confidence in both of u .

Answer 7

You only can make your family to believe.
Make yourself believable by your words, acts and deeds.
No external force is desired in this.
When they (your family) can believe and confirm that you are only a good friend to any boy, they will not take otherwise.
How come any undesired meaning to 'otherwise' for you?
Your perception that people in India are not broad-minded is unwarranted. It could be otherwise. Most girls of the category you refer may not be in the category to adjudge the broadness.

Answer 8

i think that computers and the Internet is showing people from your country and others as well that life is very different here and you probably want that type of life....but your parents are set in there ways and that's going to be very hard to change.maybe all of the younger generation will have to change this with their children .so this may not happen in your life time.I'm sorry for this,and i wish you luck...try getting your parents on the net playing pool and chatting maybe that will help open them up a bit.

Answer 9

It might help if you see this boy only in group outings. That way boys and girls will be together without pairing up, just hanging out together having fun. If they let you do this then don't talk about the boy too much to them or they will think more is going on and be prepaired to talk to your parents about what you and the girls did more than what you and the boy did. Good luck.

Answer 10

You know what? This type of thinking is everywhere you go. To different degrees of course. But you've got to understand.
My brother and his wife were good friends. So was my husband and I. We didn't have any romantic intentions, we worked together and were friends. Love grows sometimes and you can't help it.
They just fear for your future and don't want you to make it harder by falling in love to soon. Give them a break and try to appreciate that they care about you. I know it is hard. But this too shall pass.