how do i get over a woman who doesn't love me anymore?

Question

i was in a relationship with a woman for 11 months during thta time i feel in love with her deeply,but in may it ended and every since i have been constantly telling her that i love her and begging her to come back but not once has she said okay,she said all she wants to do is date other people but it kills me to know that she is spending time with other people,i have been spending time also with a female who is just a freind who i have been knowing for years alteast 8,but i cant stop thinking about my ex girlfreind and it hurts me to let go,becuse i don't everytime i speak to my ex she never shows any sign of coming back and i want her to come back so badly,she told me she slept with someone else and it bothers me becuse when i dwell on it nights that i was worried about her she was sleeping with some one else i asked her about my needs and she coldly just said i will be okay,i hate that she is putting the clubs,new guys ect infront of me,she keeps telling me i should have kept her.

Answer 1

Think about all the reasons it didn't work and get angry about the breakup.
Then, get busy living your life.
She has...

Answer 2

Well obviously you first need to stop brooding and obsessing over the matter. Painful it might be, try to do something productive. I don't know like collected stamps or baking a cake. Go to a club if you want to, take dance classes. She's over you. Another painful fact, now its your turn to get over her. Try getting into the whole dating scene with new people and faces. If she is constantly throwing the fact that you should have kept her at you, then she wasn't good enough for you in the first place. Who would purposedly do that to hurt someone they were in a relationship with? Thats not exactly a nice thing to do.

First of all how can you keep someone? I would ask her that. You can't 'keep' a person. Its not like keeping a pair of pants or a computer, people break up, people wander off, people die. Its a cycle. You can try to please a person if you will, but if there isn't true love behind it, then well its.. over.

Next time if she tells you that she slept with someone, simply tell her that you don't want to know the details of her sex life nor do you care. Because thats another step to take.

Getting over a person takes time, a lot of time for someone, a couple of days for others. But you'll do it. Theres more fish in the sea, lake, and river!

Answer 3

Look hun you just have to go on and let her go, take it from me i was in your situation a few months back. It hurts to let her go but its going to hurt you even more if you don't. If your meant to be she'll come back if not then you can't spend the rest of you life moning over some relationship that isn't going to work. If she doesn't love its her falt not yours so go into the sea and grab you another fish. You'll always think of her but you can spend your life moning or carrying on. It's your decision. Good luck! If you'd like to talk im me at [e-mail] Love, Breeze

Answer 4

I am going to be very blunt here. You need to move on; i.e., put her out of sight, out of mind. Do not drive past her house, do not sit home waiting for her to call, do not try to contact her. You will become pathetic and your life should not become about a person that doesn't want you.

From the age of 19-23, I dated a guy who I never really loved or was attracted to....I just could not get rid of him because he lived next door and wouldn't stop pestering me. He knew I didn't care about him the way he did about me. I had no love for him, ever, but I am Italian, so was he, we lived in an Italian neighborhood; maybe that helps understand why I couldn't shake this possessive ahole. Finally I broke it off for good in May of 1995. I have since graduated from college, gotten married to a wonderful man I am devoted to, and moved away and WAY on with my life, and he still lives with his mother, has never had another girlfriend, and continually drives by my old house and looks for me and goes to my cousin's barber shop and asks what I am doing; am I single, etc. He is 37 years old and his life is going to be spent sitting in his widowed mama's kitchen wondering why I left. I pray to God I never run into him because it gives me the creeps knowing he is fixated on me.

There are plenty of fish in the sea, and a better catch out there for you; one that will RECIPROCATE your love. Never waste your time in a relationship if you have one goal and that person has another. Like women who want to get married yet they waste time dating and falling in love with guys who are steadfast against it. Move on!! Love yourself more!

You must be your own best frined in this world.

Answer 5

try to find out exactly what u have done or what happened to make her not love u ne more. b prepared for the answer to hurt if she will be honest. as bad as it sounds, try to make yourself happy with u by yourself and u will soon discover that u can b happy without her. u cant make her change her mind make u love her if she dont. focus on other thingss but not that doesnt mean another relationship. if your Christian, prayer and Bible study will help a tremendous amount. And unfortunately, its mostly gonna take time.

Answer 6

its an old cliche but time is the healer. did she end it with you? she sounds very immature by throwing it all in your face, only you can open your eyes to see her for who she really is.. now is the time time to look within yourself, build up your confidence and say to yourself everyday.. I can find someone much better than her cause i deserve someone better who can treat me with the respect as you would give them. it is hard.. its also remembering that we all sometime in our life go through it!! I know!!

Answer 7

I feel hurt for your sake my friend and I hope that you will came over it ,it gonna take a long time for you to came over it but you deserve far more better than that. All the best for you.

Answer 8

move on-u deserve better