2006-08-13 22:58:20 · 38 answers · asked by Cutebabe 1 in Health ➔ Men's Health
You simply have to tell her. Just steel yourself and say "Mum, I have something to tell you and I need some help ..."
Just be prepared for her reactions and weather the storm. It will only last a little while and then she will calm down and start being positive. It's the only thing you can do and it's hard but it will probably end up with you being closer to your mum than before, so don't worry.
2006-08-13 23:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, why is this in men's health?
Well, the thing is, it doesn't really matter how you tell her, because she's going to find out sooner or later. It's goingt o be hard for her however you say it, so you should perhaps break it to her the way it is most easy and comfortable for you.
If the baby's father is likely to stick around, you may wish to tell her this. You need to tell her your plan of action also, e.g. are you going to keep the baby or are you considering adoption etc?
Ask your mum for help and support, apologise, and explain your situation.
Your mum is going to be very upset honey, but that's because she's worried about you. She will be scared for you because you are just a child yourself, anf will tell you that you will miss out on things. Chances are she will make you feel very bad, but it's because she will feel so sad for you. It's not an ideal situation and yoir mother will be very worried.
Chances are she will come round to the idea soon as she has no alternative but to, and she loves you dearly and will want to protect you and her grandchild, or to provide you with support if you decide you do not want the child.
I hope things go okay for you hun, you just need to be patient with your mum's reaction, and find someone to support you in the meantime, e.g. a best friend or the baby's father if he is around.
Good luck xXx
2006-08-13 23:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by old_but_still_a_child 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well as a mum however you say it your mum will suffer so many emotions & suffer is the word. You should have been an adult with regard to contraception, & now you have to be an adult towards your mum be sure what you want before you begin to talk to her. Do you know what you want to do? For me what ever I need to deal with before I react I usually sleep on a new dilemma shouting at you is not a solution or being mad a few tears a few hugs mums just love their children thats all there is to it I wish you all the best for your future but don't delay telling your mum she will know soon enough some thing is not quite right.
2006-08-16 05:41:57 · answer #3 · answered by wizard 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the time is right (you will know that - don't do it when she is stressed and busy, and make sure you will not be disturbed) however, the sooner the better, tell her you need to speak with her as you have something important to tell her and that you need her help.
Tell her you are sorry. Be prepared for her shock. Then discuss together what your next steps should be, such as visit to the Doctors etc. Enlist her help now and she will be with you as she is your Mum, loves you and will want the best for you and the baby.
Do be prepared to answer some questions that maybe you would prefer not to but be honest with her from now on and she will appreciate that.
Wish you good luck. God Bless.
2006-08-13 23:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mum will be the one to support you through this and yes, she may shout at you to begin with and be disappointed in you but only because she loves you. Your mum wants what is best for you and she is the only person who you can rely on and know that she will always be their for you even when you get it wrong in life. That is what being a mother is all about, you give your kids unconditional love even when all you get back is a headache. Tell your mum honey, I'm sure she will support you in whatever decision you make. Good luck x
2006-08-13 23:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by happyflamepepper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Difficult but I can guarantee that any initial storm will have passed by the time the baby is born and your Mum becomes a Grandma.
Chances are any feelings your Mum are not worth losing her relationship with you over.
Just sit her down, cup of tea and tell her. Be totally honest and up front. You have nothing to lose.
Good luck.
2006-08-14 09:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by Big Ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you absolutely certain that you are pregnant, as 14 hours ago u asked another question!! If you are then there is only one way to go, tell her straight, there is no other way about it, are you and your mum close?? Only you know how she is gonna react. Think about the rest of your live honey, before you make the decision to go ahead with the pregnancy, no one will judge you for the decisions you make as it is your body and your life, your mum can only support you through this. Good Luck sweetheart, I hope it all works out for you. xx
2006-08-13 23:07:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Squirrel ♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must tell your mom, even though it will be a very difficult and emotional experience for both of you. Choose a quiet time, when it's just you and her, and no distractions. Sit her down and tell her that you have something very important that you must tell her. Just be honest. Tell her that you made a mistake and are feeling very bad about it (I assume you do). Then tell her what happened. Be prepared for anger and tears. You have much to discuss with her, especially about what fate awaits the baby. I wish you a lot of luck. You'll need it.
2006-08-13 23:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u will just have to sit her down and tell her explain maybe in the morning that you have something to tell her and then in the evening tell her. Or you could tell her in the morning give her all day to get used to it and then you can discuss it in the evening! She will decided how she wants to deal with it. Just be ready for her reaction it might be better than u expect or worse but she has to deal with it in her own way and it may not come out well to begin with!! Just understand that this is probably not what she wanted for her daughter at your age but she will have to accpet it at some point.
2006-08-13 23:02:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be direct and honest with her just sit her down and tell her.
she may b angry with, but shes most likely to be more angry with you if she finds out off someone else.
tell her that you will support it and look after it all you need and want for her is her support, she will not b able 2 give you the answer straight away, but she should do later on you will just have to give her time to think.
when you first tell her she may shout and yell, but what mum would not do that to their kids and the only reason she will do that is because she loves you!
hope it all works out, good luck hun xx-xx
2006-08-14 01:08:15 · answer #10 · answered by Lotz F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋