I have been dating this really great guy. We are both really in love with each other. Thing is hes been working away in Ireland for two weeks at a time. He came home on friday nite! Things were great on saturday until Sunday morning. I used his fone as mine was dead and i noticed a message from another women, i had to look and it said "mising you sweetcheeks!!" I know i shouldn't of but i started txting this women. to see what had gone on. Found out they kissed but nowt else. i confronted him about her he said he just flirted and danced with her and hugged her no kissings. eventually after several lies he admitted kissing her! I do still love him but how can i forget this?? Should i give him another chance?? Please help!
2006-08-13 22:32:17 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you really love this guy then yes give him another chance but say this is your last chance if you do it again not only will you lose me you will lose my love my firendship and eveythink that comes with it. make him know how much we will lose if he ever does this to you again and if he does do it again he was not the one for you and there is the one for you out there its just finding them hun
good luck in whatever you do
2006-08-13 22:38:30 · answer #1 · answered by Foxy lady 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hmm. tough call this one. you must have suspected something to check a message on his phone. well done for confronting him and her about it. But he's lied to you and how can you trust him to go away again? Can you trust that he means it when he says he loves you? if you've been together along time then perhaps you can get over this and try again but don't store heartache over a relationship of less than 3 years. A kiss is a very intimate thing. you really deserve better and sound pretty confident as a person right now but this will wear you down until he controls you and you have no confidence. personally I'd struggle too but i'd walk away before i could get hurt some more. Men all lie but you can't let them treat you bad hon
2006-08-13 22:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! No! You are over possesive and selfish. Is he loving you? Did he not say that it was just a little flirting? Who the hell are you to investigate his occasional naughtiness? He did not sleep with her or for that matter with anyone, as far as you know!! Had he been a womaniser and want to mask it, he would have defintely made necessary arrangement not to make his darker side open to you!!
Stop nosing around!! Kep him happy !! Do not suspect a person because of your wrong imaginations!!!!
2006-08-13 22:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Sorry to burst your bubble but that's not all he did. He slept with her. As a man, I know what I'm talking about. Men don't "just kiss" and lie about it..... if that's all he did he'd of admitted that and not denied it. He knew that by admitting the kiss, there was room for speculation as to whether or not there were sexual activities. Sorry hun, but your dude is a cheater, and by what you tell me, he'll do it again. Dump him and find someone else who is worthy of your love.
p.s. I could write a book on how to spot a cheater, and he IS a cheater.
2006-08-13 22:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he only kissed her. forget about it if my woman kissed another man yes im hurt but im ok with it. women can and do throw themselves at men if he was drunk he has no chance against another womans advances.. just you keep check on him when he's away.
its holiday time in ireland at the minute women are going to be out in packs looking for available meat, lots of single middle aged female tourists on the prowl. make him wear a wedding ring or something to remind him hes commited to someone else
2006-08-13 22:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt respect you.he is not taking the relationship seriously too!ok so may b he thought it wasnt a very serious thing he had with you thats why he kissed the girl but to take her number..for him it wasnt going to end with that -am not with my galfriend naughty kiss-he wants more from the other girl thats why he still has contact with her and thats why even after finding out he cheated on you he is still lying to your face..he is not worthied and he is not sure if he wants you cause hes a cheating a**h*** and the longer you stay with him the more you are hurting yourself coz i bet u that know hes formulating plans to have sex with the other girl.show him you respect yourself and leave the F***ing guy..
2006-08-14 02:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by kapatikana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would only forgive him if it was the other woman who really came on strong to him and she was the one that instigated the kiss. but if it turned into a full blown snog then he could have stopped that if he wanted. plus why is he giving other women who he kissed his phone no. in the first place. also was he very drunk, because sometimes people do stupid things then, overall if it was me i would find it very hard to forgive, but if this is the first thing that he's done like this then i would give him one more chance but you will have to keep an eye on him as he needs to earn your trust back
2006-08-13 22:39:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important things in a relationship are trust , love and honesty.if he cud not even trust u so much as he cud tell u wat happened tht day, i think , he is not worth a single pence. wat i mean is, the matter is not tht he kissed someone else, but, he lied to u,i.e., the most imporrtant person in his life.he can be forgiven for the kiss thing but not for lying.just break up. if he really is sorry try to ask him tht why didnt he confess u earlier. if he is truthful, u can think of giving him a second chance, or else just kick him out of ur life. u deserve someone better and u will get one . all the best.
2006-08-13 23:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How great can he be if he went out and did this knowing that he is in a relationship? What else has he done that you don't know about? If I were you I would kick him to the curb and move on. There are guys out there that are truly committed to their significant other. Good luck!
2006-08-13 22:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him no other chance. If he was a person who is trustworthy, he'd have told you the truth before you bugged him about it. Drop him. If you still love him in spite of that, and you are afraid of losing him, do give him another chance on condition that he be open and stop lying.
2006-08-13 22:43:58 · answer #10 · answered by kombo6m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you said it really great guy! both really in love?
Well well is he really that great if he cheats on you?
really in love what is really in love?do you know?
Well i do being BOTH really in love means you wont cheat on your partener......
Give him another go well thats up to you .
I know it wont be the same for a very long time you will be itching to check his phone quite simply YOU WONT TRUST HIM ANYMORE.
So if thats the sort of relationship you are after i say yes give the cheating double dating scumbag another chance.
Good luck.
2006-08-13 22:38:55 · answer #11 · answered by spudster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋