plz help me , I know what love is , been there before , but now I met this guy, which i liked very much, he want us to be friends only since he's not attracted to me physically, i talled him that we'll be friends at least , but now , I'm not sure weather I want to love him or not, ... in other words, I'm afraid if I tell him that i love him , that I might sacrifice our friendship , we're very close, what should I do ?!?!?!? I'm too confused !!!
2006-08-13 21:59:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think he has made it clear that he wants to be friends with you. This is the most hurtful ever but you have to realise that he has already made boundaries between you and him and that is pure friendship. If you do tell him that u like him, there might actually be high chances that he might avoid you or walk away. Before you take any chances, let time pass by and continue to be friends with him. If he starts to like you, then maybe you would want to tell him eventually. But, if he still puts it strictly as friends, then i suggest you don't tell him anything. Unless you feel that it's truly important that he knows that u love him and u don't mind losing him over that, then you might want to risk the chance. Ultimately, u make the decision. Always remember that there are a whole lot of nice people that you haven't met. Don't belittle yourself because of just one person ya. :)
2006-08-13 22:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Zee22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Is it love you're feeling
or just an infatuation?"
by Ann Landers
"Infatuation is instant desire - one set of glands calling to another. Love is friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.
Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine to closely. It might spoil the dream.
Love is the quiet understanding and mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you - to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his presence, even when he is away. Miles do not separate you. You have so many wonderful little films in your head that you keep replaying. But near or far, you know he is yours and you can wait.
Infatuation says, "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him." Love says, "Be patient. Don't panic. Plan your future with confidence."
Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together you hope it will end in intimacy. Love is not based on sex. It is the maturation of friendship that makes sex so much sweeter. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Infatuation lacks confidence. When he's away, you wonder if he is cheating. Sometimes you check.
Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. He feels your trust, and it makes him even more trustworthy.
Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret, but love never steers you in the wrong direction.
Love is elevating. It lifts you up. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person than you were before."
2006-08-14 05:06:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you are close and good friends, you should be able to tell him how you feel (if he doesnt already know!) I understand that it may mean risking the friendship, but if you are not honest about your feelings, then they may eat away at you and your time with your friend wont be happy anyway as you will be pining for him and wishing you could have him. Be honest, if he is a true friend, he will appreciate your honesty - he may be quite flattered by your attention. I hope it works out for you :)
2006-08-14 05:05:36 · answer #3 · answered by kingpusskitten 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is hard for You to tell him that you are in love with him than try it in another way. There are some tricks to know what he feels about you. Because if you have feelings for him and he doesn't, when you tell him nothing is going to be the same in your friendship. So try and find out what he feels about you. For example when you are in a company with some other guys-what is his reaction etc.
2006-08-14 05:13:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sonce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is the hurry ? Take some more time . Allow nature to take it course of action . Keep your meetings on , create and maintain humorous and charming interaction between two . Let him take the charge to propose . And he will , if you do not rush things , have patience . And patience pays good dividends always.
2006-08-14 05:07:18 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are in love
love is ...
love is ...
that a hiding feelings ,which you can`t explain it by words..
which go around and every where , in this world..
looking about its waiting chance, to enjoy the feelings...
and you charm the eyes and the hearts...
quietness sneak into , and to settle down in the mind and the heart ,against of you ...
inside of the heart , to own the heart and the passion..
to control on you...
the love is that feelings which can own the person from inside...
and to take him around the world as it wish ,
with its happiness or its sadness...
wander him any where even on the seas,
and to walk on the seas without diving into deeply inside...
the love....
is that tasty epidemic , which infect all people without exception..
has its magnetic , which attract all together....
and without love , life never to continue in any planet...
love has many great meanings and definitions,
differ from one to another lover..
every lover has his private imagination and definition to the meaning of love...
and has his way in loving ...
that is my imagination about that great words..
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yours
hazem
2006-08-14 05:47:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can't decide who you want to love, unfortunately... you should consider the pros and the cons of telling him. i can't help you with that. will you feel worse if you had to keep this enormous secret between you? will your heart break if he meets someone else? or do you prefer your friendship - complex and honest only to a degree?
2006-08-14 08:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by kittens 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to save your friendship
2006-08-14 06:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by yusdz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honest is the best solution, tell him how you feel. No one can stop you from loving.
2006-08-14 05:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by seb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him how you really feel about him, tell him your worries, the things you have in mind.. state the advantages and disadvantages if you will surpass being friends..
just be ready for all the consequences.. good luck!
2006-08-14 05:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋