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Question

can yu gimme an instance where yu convinced a grp of people disagreeing with yur beliefs or point of view?how wud yu do it?

Answer 1

It can be done. What you're looking for is that instant change their minds example. This is the rarest of events in the world of debate. In reality the real changes happen when people are confronted with the ridiculous nature of their stance on a particular issue.

In my experience the best way to accomplish the instant change is by calmly and logically leading people through the thought processes that brought you to the conclusions you've reached. But our nature is to clash with the opposing opinion holder with combative language and ridicule and aggressive argumentation.

Answer 2

I would listen carefully to what they were saying, and I would say it back to be sure I understood them correctly. I would think carefully about how to talk to them, and not even try if they were being abusive, threatening, or were just plain angry or worked up. If they disagree with your beliefs or point of view, then it must mean that you disagree with their beliefs or points of view, as well, doesn't it?
It isn't likely that ANYONE will change someone else's mind.

The only way to approach situations like this is with the mindset of communicating. They communicate their ideas to you. You politely and respectfully let them know that you understand what they said. Really listen and learn about them.

Then after they have settled down, and believe that you are interested in them as people, not adversaries, you can ask their permission to share your ideas on the subject. Tell them it's not so they will change their minds, but so they will have a bigger picture, like you do now, because if having listened respectfully to them.

If they decline permission, then be big enough to say okay, I understand, and just change the subject. Don't be pouty or whiny or angry. Just move on. It is possible that they will later say hey, what were you going to say? If they decline, you won't get them to open their ears and their minds by insisting.

If they give you permission, then tell your beliefs and ideas. Don't say why yours are right. Just say them, and then if you are both ready to go to the next step, look together at how they are different, and if there are any similarities between your ways of looking at things.

Remember, you aren't going to "change their mind," and they aren't going to change yours.

Learning about each others' ways of thinking is one of the most basic and most powerful steps to changing the hate and suspicion in this world to tolerance and justice.

Answer 3

First of all a very nice question.
Its really very very difficult to convince a group who dont agrre with your beliefs or thoughts.
I had many instance of these things happening BUT finally I quit coz it sometimes becomes serious and maybe turns into fights or abuses.
I prefer to quit rather than argue with them.

Answer 4

Respect their views. Let time prove them your beliefs.
Humans come from different background, different expectation. Each carries with them different life experience, different history.
It's not possible for everyone to think like you.
If such day does come, there'll be no conflict.

Answer 5

Well first of all you gotta clear out to those people on your side of the story, whether they believe you or not, at least you had say what you wanna say.