We dated for a month before she broke up with me 4 months ago, she said she wasn’t ready for an emotional relationship and she wanted us to be just friends. I was attached to her and I really couldn’t see myself being her friend and watch her go out with other guys, it was going to be too painful for me because I loved her, so I decided to cut off contact with her so that I can get over her. It has now been 2 months since we last spoke and I miss her, clearly time didn’t make me get over her because I still love her and I feel this urge to talk to her again to find out how she feels, but I think she’ll be angry with me for ignoring her.
What should I do, should I call her and ask her how she is, how she feels and how she’s doing or shouldn’t I?
2006-08-13 21:01:19 · 16 answers · asked by lacoste 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
if u really like her, there's no harm in calling or send an sms to her to check if she's fine and all that.
trust me, that works for a girl most of the time but not all the time
goodluck! Ü
2006-08-13 21:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by crazy_for_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are putting way too much emphasis on this one relationship. She has clearly made up her mind that you are not the guy for her, so any further pursuit will only driver her further away. You are best to find someone else or at the very least let her take the initiative for the next contact. Since it has been two months since last contact I'd have to assume that she is content to let the relationship die altogether.
Being too clingy or pushy makes you appear desperate and that just ain't attractive. When you've found another person to care about deeply, this will seem far less important to you. Time does heal all wounds, but time alone is not good enough. You have to move on, dwelling on it is like picking at a sore. It will never heal until you decide to leave it alone,.
2006-08-14 04:12:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, fight for that love, just being friends doesnt drive you away from her, just show the same kindness and love that you feel to her. Let her feel important to you and dont ignore her. If you did ignore her for the last two months, call her,tell her that you cant help missing her too much. Ask how she feels and take her for a short date if you can somehow take her. Give her a bunch of flowers attached a note that she is still very special and that youre willing to wait till shes ready for a love relationship.
2006-08-14 04:15:15 · answer #3 · answered by Puzzledmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you should try and talk to her. If you have strong feelings for her, then I think it's important that you do this. Either one of two things are gonna happen... a) She rejects you and you can finally have some kind of closure - b) She realizes what a great guy she could have and the two of you will work things out. You'll never know until you try bud. Good luck to ya!
- Scottie
2006-08-14 04:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by DJ Scottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot truly love someone in a wholesome way unless you are first their friend.
Friendships are where trust is established and where the characters of two people are exposed to one another.
Also make sure you are not making your need to love someone as a replacement for the emptiness caused by unfulfilled spiritual wholeness filled by the love of your creator who loves you always and wants what is best for you in a relationship.
No person can take the place of God or love as well as He.
2006-08-14 04:06:49 · answer #5 · answered by doodad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1: call if you're ready for her to still say "just friends"
2: call if hearing her voice and talking to her will help you feel better
3: don't call if you expect things to have changed from the last time you spoke
4: don't call with expectations of her just falling into your arms
4: don't call if it will make it harder to "get over it" and "get on with life"
Good luck. It's a hard decision.
2006-08-14 04:09:28 · answer #6 · answered by lrad1952 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on. Being friends is her way of telling you nicely that she doesn't want a romantic relationship with you, save yourself the heart ache of going through seeing her with someone else. Believe it or not, time does heal all wounds.
2006-08-14 04:11:39 · answer #7 · answered by Injun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Her Up
2006-08-14 04:04:53 · answer #8 · answered by floxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think if she is really interested in contacting with you she had to call you and ask how you are. Two months without asking means that she didn't care about you.
Despite this and for your sake you could call her and ask about how she is. May be she is waiting you to ask about her.
Nothing to lose.
2006-08-14 04:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you have told us and see how she feels. You need to put a conclusion to this and the only way is to put it to her your feelings and let her decide what to do.
You are not ignoring you are trying to come to terms yourself. If she decides still no then you have to accept that and move on.
2006-08-14 04:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by Spadesboffin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋