for those of you in commited and satisfying sexual relationships, how does "selfpleasuring" affect your sex life? i have heard that masturbation can cause bad habits in guys, not lasting as long, focusing more on themselves during sex, instant gratification expectations, etc. If you depend only on your woman to please you, is your sex life better, more fulfilling? Personal experiences, no stupid immature remarks please, honest question.
2006-08-13 20:58:58 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
I'm married by the way. no pre-marital sex lectures are necessary. im just always looking to expand my knowledge of sex and the male body/mind
2006-08-13 21:04:03 · update #1
I'm not even sure if my husband engages in it. his sex drive is less than mine actually, but when we do do it, hes really into it. could his weight be a factor? or maybe he just doesnt want to do it so much cuz its more fun if there is anticipation?
2006-08-13 21:17:12 · update #2
guys that masturbate are usually the ones that are unsatisfied
2006-08-13 21:00:59 · answer #1 · answered by j@mE$ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It isn't a question regarding satisfaction. It is a question of availability. If you are in a satisfying, commited, sexual relationship, it is hard to believe your commited partner always wants to have sex when you do. So what are you options?
A) Hold out (for however long that may take)
B) Find another partner (Not a good option if you are commited)
C) Self Pleasure
I think "C" is a good choice. Also - he obviously needs you and prefers you to masterbation, otherwise he would just live alone and engage only in that act. Don't look at it as competition or selfishness, but rather as he is being considerate, because he may have a higher sexual drive than you - it would be unreasonable for him to expect you to throw down all the time...
It doesn't make him a worse lover or have less stamina. Anyone who mentions stamina is using that as an excuse. Masturbation takes longer - becuase intercourse is so much more stimulating, it would be harder (no pun intended) to hold out..
Good luck
2006-08-13 21:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Forgiven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, I will tell you the secret... if you masturbate before having sex with your partner you increase the stamina substantially.
On a serious note. I have found that self gratification has not helped or hindered in any way. I just think it's the animalistic side taking over. It's just hormones or urges. That's what makes the 'behavior' or 'habits' that you speek of. There is also the fact that regular masturbation will keep the prostate healthy and there is a great reduction in prostate cancer.
I'm married with kids and its the same weather or not she's there... (if women can have that attitude... so can guys).
2006-08-13 21:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man has a greater need for release than his wife, masturbation is a natural outlet. Even if he doesn't though, I think it can improve his and his partner's sex life, because it can help him be more aware of his body. Greater awareness could help him "last" longer, and to be tuned in to interesting and exciting new sensations. The process of masturbation can also be a way of accepting and loving oneself - and I think that feeling this way about oneself, rather than feeling shame and inhibition, would natually make one a better lover. Of course, if one prefers it to one's partner, or does it too frequently (so that one lacks the "energy" to have sex with his partner), there might be some things in the relationship to work through.
2006-08-13 21:20:19 · answer #4 · answered by Joshua 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you have heard about M... is nonsense. Sex is not only a union of bodies but, to an extent, union of minds too. So if both the people are healthy and have an healthy relationship and are in the mood for sex, M... habit in no way hinders them.
To put it simply, it is not M..., but his need for it in spite of having a woman that calls for attention. May be the woman, should know more about his likes and dislikes in sex and act accordingly.
But, it is more of a give and take policy than trying to fulfill ones own craving.
2006-08-13 21:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by skr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, no. Masturbation for men, is almost a completly different experience than with sex with a woman. Different pleasures are derived but both are equally pleasurable. Most men like variety and masturbation can fill in a space that would more often than not keep men more faithful!
Women should not worry if they find their men masturbating, rather, joining in with the man could intensify his feelings for her.
As for the answer to your question... guiltless masturbation can actually enhance your sex life
2006-08-13 21:06:12 · answer #6 · answered by jerry666_98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just from personal experience: I had a bfriend who was a HUGE self satisfyer and I currently have a bfriend who is not at all interested in self satisfying and I can say from personal experience that the latter is BY FAR better!!! It makes me feel more confident that he prefers me to his hand and he performs a hell of a lot better. He is also much more in tune with my needs and not in just his own instant gratification.
2006-08-13 21:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want all of your sexual satisfaction based on fantasy, then you need to save it for marriage.
Fantasy can never satisfy, nor can illegitimate pleasures be repeated that will satisfy.
Self-gratification is always temporary and unsatisfactory.
2006-08-13 21:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by doodad 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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