Recently one of my friends lost her grandmother. She is really shocked and sad. How can I calm down her and bring her out of it?
2006-08-13 20:47:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Just be there for her.
That's what you should do. As much as it might hurt....
take the time to take her out to dinner, and only talk about her grandmother....maybe she needs to talk to someone, without them telling her, "It will be alright!"
She already subconciously know this. She just needs to talk...she'll come out of her depresion sooner.!
2006-08-13 20:51:31 · answer #1 · answered by Lepolion H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can just be there for her. A shoulder to cry on. An ear to listen to her stories. But you can't just bring her out of it. There are stages in the grief process and it sounds as if your friend is only at stage 1. Give her time to miss and mourn her grandmother. Give her time to accept what has happened. It is a great loss. And you should probably think about what this is bringing up in you. What about your friend's grief makes you uncomfortable?
Stay Focused
-GirlShrink
2006-08-13 20:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by girlshrinkdotcom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person has to have a certain amount of grieving period.
Some take longer then others. If it goes on for too long a period, than she should see someone who will help her to deal with it.
It depend on how long her grandmother has been gone. If it's been quite recently, then be strong for her, and allow her to grieve. Let her know that you are there for her. If she needs to talk about her, then allow her to do so. If it goes on for any great
length of time, then that's when you might consider a Minister, Priest, or Rabbi, whichever the case might be. They are very good at helping a person during these times, if she doesn't have one of these persons, then consider a Therapist, or a support group, which helps her to know that she's not alone, and with give her support. It wouldn't hurt you to attend with her, so she knows that you are trying to be there for her. My condolences to your girlfriend.
2006-08-13 21:00:42 · answer #3 · answered by virgiinia r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not much you can do short of trying to keep her occupied. Try a road trip, bring her out of her regular life for a break. When you lose somebody, it can get real tiring hearing them all wax on about how sorry they are for you, sometimes the best relief is just to get away from any place or anybody that might remind you of them. Whatever you do, never bring it up unless she does first.
2006-08-13 21:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
explain to her it is part of the cycle of life. now that through the death of her grandmother, a child was given life. although the body is gone, the spirit still lives, not only within her and the memories she has, but also in that child who was given life. explain to her life must go on. she must live and her grandmother will live through her. otherwise, her grandmother will really die.
2006-08-13 20:51:53 · answer #5 · answered by Kokoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her ...Let her griev but tell her you are there for her if she needs to talk or whatever...Let her know that her grandma may be gone but that she will always be in your freinds heart, and she still has memories and no one can take them away.....Also let her know that her grandmas spirit is still there watching over her
2006-08-13 21:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u can talk to her abt things that is not related to thid.. try to distract her and take her thought away from it... take her out... if she doesn't want to talk then just sit near her as a sweet friends presence is the greatest thing ever..
2006-08-13 20:53:31 · answer #7 · answered by the NINJa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that nothing is permenant in life... everyone comes one earth for leaving once this earth this is unchangable truth... missing ur nearest on loving one very critical to anyone but u have to face it. this is real truth so keep some good momory of them in ur mind always she is living in ur heart until u die !!!
2006-08-13 20:57:45 · answer #8 · answered by forplay_afterplay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her death is a natrual thing an it happens to everyone an if she don't snap out of it she will end up in the nut house
2006-08-13 20:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by sicivic05 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just be there for your friend, dont say anything just listen to her....
2006-08-13 20:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋