I think the woman my dad plans to marry is a cheater and a liar and I dont know how to tell my dad this?

Question

When my dad was leaving out of town she asked if I wanted to go on a road trip with her in front of my dad, who is a very trusting kind of person, but when she did she winked at me when my dad wasnt looking, she also brushed my hair one day telling me she liked it and has done other things that lead me to beleive she wants to have affair with me, which i would never even consider i love my dad and god too much to ever to do something so low but i think she might also be having affairs with other men as well, how do I tell my dad this?

Answer 1

talk2 him & tell him how U feel

Answer 2

What! Do you have proof of this? And I mean...solid, tangible proof? Did she actually have an affair with you? Did you see her with another man? You didn't give much info:
Like what else did she do to you (besides brush your hair and say she liked it) to make you think she wants to fool around with you? It's kinda hard to give advice if the info is limited but here's my suggestion: When your dad returns home, express to him your concerns. Don't hide it. You can start by saying something like "Dad, I need to discuss something of concern with you. Will you hear me out?" Unless you have proof to back up your concern, you need to let dad know this is only a feeling. Of course your dad will ask you where you got this idea. Open up and be honest with him. The risk here is if she's really innocent, it might start a conflict in their relationship. Just make your dad aware that you're just doing this because you love and care for him. From here, your dad can handle the situation himself. Good luck on this one.

Answer 3

You sit him down and explain exactly what you have seen,heard and experienced from this woman. If you stick with the facts instead of what you think her intentions are, your Dad will be less likely to get angry and won't really hear your concern. Make sure you tell him you just wanted him to know the facts because you were concerned for him and his future with her. Once you tell him, it's up to him to decide what he will do about this info. Don't mention it again, because chances are if he doesn't leave her, you will stay mad at her and he won't. That will only cause problems between you and your Father. He is a grown man, if he doesn't listen to you he might just have to learn the hard way. Good luck.

Answer 4

Well I would say that you might be completely wrong about her. You should give her the benefit of the doubt. Remember, to you she is still the one who is trying to take your mothers place in a way with your dad so you are resenting it. Also, She is trying to be friendly and get on your good side, and be close to you since she loves your dad, and her winking at you can just mean that we are two buddies and will have fun together doing things while on the road trip like buddies, Her brushing your hair too, that is not a big thing, its a way for someone to show that they care about you and she might just be a very mothering kind of person who sees in you a nice young man who she would like to get along with, remember she knows she is the outsider trying to take the place in a way of your mother, so she is doing her best to fit in.

DO NOT ruin any happiness for your Father, it is NONE of your business how he spends his life, She sounds like a nice lady and you young man need to get off your high horse and quit being so negative with someone who has done nothing wrong

Answer 5

Thats really hard coz He's ur dad and hurting him is the last thing anyone wants to do.
The Best thing to do is confront her, Speak to her.. say as if you know something she knows but don't tell her in words....
for example.
"i have noticed something but really hard to say out 2 my dad but willing too if you won't".

She be so confused and worried,If she says anything just reply saying "What i said is, what i said", she would just give up and tell her u gonna go tell.

Than she really freak out, talk 2 ur dad about your childhood and past she would think your talking about her.
Than tell him that u want to be fully honest with him and you don't want to hurt him but he raised you to always tell the truth.
Than tell him when she is not there.
Tell him EVERYTHING!!! How she talks to u and winks at you.
He would always rely on you when someone lies too him and he needs the truth.
I hope i told u what u wanted to hear.
Telling the thruth is something no one would do but a true son.

Answer 6

Just ask your dad if you can have some time to talk to him. When that time comes just be very honest and open...and very gentle but you need to tell him the truth about what has been happening!! He needs to know! Do you want your dad to get hurt later?? Tell him. Good luck!

Answer 7

gather information regarding any affairs this lady has. You may be surprised that perhaps she is as clean as your dad believes and maybe you are the one who is being unnecessarily suspicious.

But if not, then you have proof that you MUST share with your dad and no matter how it may hurt him, it is your duty to tell him.

However, if you are wrong. you owe two peole (your dad and the lady) a very sincere apology.

Answer 8

You better tell your dad now before it is too late. Don't let the ***** come between your family.

Answer 9

take this problem as nothing...u might never know whats in her mind....you should check it out first before telling your father about it....I'm sure that you don't wanna hurt your father's feelings...so,be cool in handling things and don't rush over....start by talking with her friends maybe or even her....its not late to be true....good luck....

Answer 10

Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to get the proof. It's a sacrifice you may need to go through for your dad.

...........and don't forget to take pictures. It's real good proof.

Answer 11

Just come right out and say it, don't wait until it's too late.