I lost trust and i dont want her to be with her friends. Because they drink and i dont like her drinking. But when we argue we end up pushing each other. then i grab her by her hands real hard and then she starts to cry. I dont hit her, but im close to. How can i stop this? I love her and dont want to lose her. She said that if this keeps happining she is going to leave me. She also says that she loves me but hates me when i act crazy. I dont want to lose her what should i do? How can i stop this??? Help Me! We are both 19 years old.
2006-08-13 19:21:54 · 7 answers · asked by Ice age 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You can't love her if you don't trust her, you can only obsess over her. For her part, she should dump you the very next time you get physical with her. What makes you think that you love somebody that you forcibly restrain and want to hit??? If she's hanging out with a lousy crowd of people, that 's a whole other problem that needs to be resolved, but get t othese others first. I hate to be harsh here, but if you don't start resolving these things IMMEDIATELY I guarantee you will lose this relationship before much longer. I'm nopt syaing you should start trying to fix things, you have to start getting solid results NOW. Best of luck to ya.
2006-08-13 19:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonyman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard to let her go. But if you can't trust her, then you don't need to be with her.
Trust and communication is the real bases of a relationships.
Also, if you get into arguments that are so bad they are to the point of someone hitting someone or something, it needs to end. If you love her you should want her to be happy, and it doesn't sound like either one of you two are happy. And happiness the real reason anyone gets into relationship in the first place.
2006-08-14 02:45:22 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpeachiebear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand wat u r going thru. Me and my boyfriend is going thru da same thing so like i tell him if u cant trust me den we dont need 2 b 2gether. It's as simple as dat. He dont hit me tho, but I hit him. U need 2 let her go bcuz if u can't trust yo gurl den u need 2 move on. Ur relationship will neva b da same anymore bcuz da love and trust dat u had 4 her iz gone. But u can b civial 2 her. Don't hate her....just move on. Simple as dat. Real talk.
2006-08-14 02:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dede 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go,, if your close to hitting her,, then its not very long b4 u in fact do,, a relationship built on lies is not worth continueing,, i finally admitted it to myself,, but ill be damned if the sex isnt too good for me to just quit..:p good luck,, and the fact that u know you have a problem is the first step to a solution
2006-08-14 02:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by kewl69charger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont trust her sweetie you cant love her and there is no relasionship there to persue..
if she lies to you and every thing you can do so much better!!
good luck
take care
2006-08-14 03:27:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust her, you can't have a relationship with her. It's as simple as that.
Move on.
2006-08-14 02:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Kenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get self-esteem training and you may become a kinder and more sensible person.
2006-08-14 04:10:48 · answer #7 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋