to start with,im a filipina and i met a guy online(he's in makati)..im in maryland now and planning to go back this december to met with him..im 20 and he's 21...my prob is,im 5'5, 145 lbs... he had seen my pictures and its ok..but im scared that it would be different when we meet...what do u think should i do?
2006-08-13 19:03:07 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
Tell him your overweight NOW--don't let it drag on until after you meet. Who knows, he may not care, then you can move on with your "relationship". Also, when you confide in him earlier than later, he may become forthcoming with his own "weaknesses" too (he could be a drug user, psycho, missing one arm, using you for a green card, married to three women, who knows?) Don't you want to know stuff like that before you haul your butt halfway across the world to meet him? A reasonable person would. Would you?
My point is this: IMO, it is not a relationship unless you've actually MET IN PERSON. Call me old-fashioned--but that's just me. Know yourself and emphasize common sense, even in love.
2006-08-14 12:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Well 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It can really be unnerving to meet someone for the first time in person when you've only known him so far through the internet. Just be as calm and composed as possible and remember that he probably feels as nervous as you do. If you wanna take your relationship to the next level, you gotta take the plunge at some point anyway. Good luck.
2006-08-14 00:40:43 · answer #2 · answered by Mary J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, from now to december is more than 3 months. if you dont feel confident with your body then you should start trying to change it. 3 months of eating healthy and adding exercise to an active lifestyle can make a huge difference. not only will exercising change your body, but it will give u the confidence u need to make this work. good luck. =)
2006-08-13 19:09:56 · answer #3 · answered by nam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself and everything will be fine. If you're worried that you look fat you're probably not, being 5'5 and 145 lbs is not as bad as you think there can be why more worse things. But if you want to you should wear black, it will help make you look slimmer.
2006-08-13 19:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by bex d. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest you just meet him as a friend first, because I think friendship is a good foundation for any relationship. Exchange conversations once you're there. Establish your first impressions of each others. Most importantly, stay true to yourself, be confident, he should love you for who you are.
If you just cannot wait to meet each others again, there may be chemistry between you two, you'd decide how to go further in your relationship.
Just think of what to say & just be yourself.
I hope he's sent you one of his recent photo in exchange, as well.
Best of luck.
2006-08-13 21:19:13 · answer #5 · answered by Saigon Giap 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why? what is your ideal weight? Is there a promise of love proposal already? Be yourself and confident. If what you are afraid to happen will happen then at least while it is still early it would not hurt so much.
The thing is you have to find his true intentions first and I believe it is still too early to make a good painting of what your life together will be.
2006-08-13 19:22:48 · answer #6 · answered by Rallie Florencio C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm just curious... has he sent you ANY pictures of him?
Otherwise, it's another web "acquaintance".
I'd be very cautious if I were you.
If you must meet anyway, meet at a public, crowded place where there're plenty of witnesses.
Bring a friend.
Finally, be safe.
2006-08-13 19:12:46 · answer #7 · answered by ViRg() 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so worried? If he judges you by the way you look then he's not really worth your time. Meet up with him, he's just an acquaintance for now right? Let your personality speak for itself.
2006-08-13 21:44:37 · answer #8 · answered by AvantG 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Beauty is in the eye of the Beholder. Why worry? You know that Filipino men prefer women with more meat, the meatier it gets the better it is. So cheer up!
2006-08-13 22:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all Ms..
meeting people online is not that safe you should take some friends along with you or if you really made decisions you must really take care..my advice is dont bring a lot of cash with you use atm and dont be fooled by anyone else dont talk to people if u dont know him/her..
and... about your question
if he really do love you...he dont mind your physical appearance
plus you can start diet by now and it will help a lot after three months im overweight too..
2006-08-14 10:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Wenielyn 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋