Do you think gay men were born that way or sucked into it?

Answer 1

I think their overbearing abusive momma's drove them to it.

Answer 2

I think there definitely is a genetic element to sexual orienation, but I don't think that's the only answer. Your question hints that experience along the way also has some effect. And I think that's very true. Personally, I think orientation is the end result of biology + experience. And yes, up to a point, and with certain individual cases, I do believe that some have been drawn into the gay lifestyle at an early age by others, and if those early experiences had never happened, they would not consider themselves gay right now. The truth of the matter is that homoerotic sexual activity can be very intoxicating and intense, especially for a young man.

Answer 3

Actually there is a great deal of scientific evidence that it is inborn. Beyond scientific evidence there is anecdotal evidence.

The fruit fly study is actually fairly conclusive. But the pheremonal and eye blink studies are also compelling. I've included links below for those that are interested. Beyond that, research increasingly suggests that at least for males, X28 is the crucial gene. I am saddened by this, because I believe that once it is proven, gay people will be wiped out -- and I think that is sad, because given the number of species in which homosexuality exists (see Dr. Bruce Bagemihl's book "Biological Exuberance" from St. Martin's Press) I think it serves a purpose.

In addition to scientific evidence is the anecdotal evidence. I never in my life had any sexual feeling for a female -- nor any romantic feelings. I have had romantic feelings for other males since 8. I figured out it was sexual at 11 and came out at 14. I never felt anything for girls, neither do other gay males I know. Some boys manage to suppress it for a time, but when it comes out they admit to having always had the feelings. Likewise for bisexuals, although bisexuals always have feelings for both, and therefore are capable of choice -- for real. Gays are no more capable of choice than straights are.

Kind thoughts,

Reyn
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Answer 4

I think 80% of gay men and women are born that way. the other 20% choose it.

Answer 5

You could do the magical amazing thing and ask someone who is. Or you could look at established known fact. Both are irrefutable sources that will give you the correct answer.

Nobody chooses who they are attracted to. People who say that homosexuality is a choice have failed to think about it. Did you choose to be attracted to the opposite sex? Could you choose not to be? Are there any possible reasons for you to make that choice anyway?

Answer 6

Being gay is not a choice. You can not change. You might be lucky enough to be bisexual and hide part of yourself, but you will never change. If animals in the wild and in captivity can be gay, why can't humans?

Answer 7

No one knows exactly why people are gay, lesbian, or bisexual, any more than we know why people are heterosexual. Many theories have been suggested as to why people are gay, lesbian, or bisexual, including hormonal differences, genetic predispositions, family interactions, social and emotional factors, or early sexual experiences. None of these theories is, as yet, widely accepted. There is a lot of evidence to suggest that homosexuality and bisexuality are, at least in part, determined by genetic factors prior to birth. Research continues to be conducted in these areas.

Regardless of why people are gay, lesbian, or bisexual, it is now clear that people do not "choose" to be homosexual or bisexual. Even if people do not have sexual experiences until they are adults, their sexual orientation is determined early in life. This means that whether a person is sexually abused as a child has no bearing on whether he or she will be gay, lesbian, or bisexual. While some people who identify themselves as gay, lesbian, or bisexual have been sexually abused as children, there are also many heterosexual adults who were abused as children.

Similarly, it does not appear that sexual orientation can be changed or altered. Whether through psychotherapy, religious experiences, or other means, there is virtually no likelihood that one's sexual orientation can be permanently changed. While our sexual behavior may be quite variable, orientation is more stable. A heterosexual person can no more be "changed" to be homosexual than a gay or lesbian person can be "made" heterosexual. Psychotherapies or religious organizations that claim to change sexual orientation focus on changing sexual behavior, not sexual orientation. Gay, lesbian, and bisexual people can best be helped by accepting who they are, rather than trying to change who they are.

Answer 8

Straight people say "You're not born that way".

So when did you choose to be straight?

Answer 9

hahahhaa ok- it's genetic. If you were "sucked into it", wouldn't heaps more men who identify as gay be "pulled out of it" again by sexy chicks? There would be heaps more fence jumpers.
Think about it Einstein.

Answer 10

There is no way any gay man was born gay .Being gay is a sin and if you are gay you are going to hell.God does not force you to do wrong it is your choice.Being gay is a choice.

Answer 11

it got me thinking that soem of them are born to be homo. you cant blame them....not tt they choose to be.