Yet again lol ok my Marriage is not what it should be...?

Question

Ok today my wife left me, We have been having alot of arguments lately about pointless stuff. She says that she can not take it anymore and leaves over and over again i tried to get her to communicate with me and the answer that i always seem to get is that i hate arguing all them time. I tried to suggest counseling i also have tried to hcnage what we do with each other by going on dates and going out.. Too add to all this we ahve a one year old son and another child on the way. I would so much love for this family to stay to gether for our kids sake and i have plenty of faith that any marraige / relationship is repairable. I would love to chat with anyone that could be able to give me advice both succesful and unsuccesful marriages. She says that she still loves me. But i do not understand that is someone still loves you why they would want to give up on love and step back and fix the matter well if anyone wants to chat i am on messanger at the moment just send me a tell.

Answer 1

Maybe she is just done with you, let her go, if she comes back it was meant to be.....

Answer 2

she is being polite
she does not love you
if she can walk out, even if pregant with child
trust me the love is long gone ( look at Charlie Sheens ex wife.. she did the very same thing.. )
don't rtying staying together for the sake of the kids
kids KNOW when they are in a bad household where the parents do not like each other
it only teaches them to repeat your mistake
and trust me they will
you have made a bad judgement call in your spouse
there were signs from the begining ( there always are ) that you ignored and went ahead with marriage
then you made the mistake of having children thinking that would fix it.. it doesn't, but only exastperates the situtation
you best best is to keep it former and polite during the divorce proceeding and not to posion the children
you job as you know know it will be to be a good human being and keep the best face foward for the kids as they shuttle back and forth between parents
if you your soon to be ex wife is bad person and try's to poison the children
she'll pay in the long run as the children WILL take side and favor the better of the 2 parents ( and it's not the one that buys them off will presents and such.. it the one the loves them and spends good quality time with them ).

Answer 3

hey
marriage is institution, there may be no. of times failure in or life.Ihave passed thru this trauma and by God's grace passed this blooady test and me and wife are leaving happily.
see u must first set your gaols, i mean what u desire from ur wife.
Then just see what are positive and negative things both in u and wife. See analyse and make sure that u indulge one experienced aged personality whome ur wife respects the most.
Fiest and formost thing is with in this period even if how much ur annoyed if u wan that ur family should not break u should not leave her contcts. U must give small compliments , little gifts and ur personal life chats words( preferable love) on cards in this period, bcoz if she is with out u she should not think of any other person whenever she is alone.
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Answer 4

OK, first off you should get your wife a bouquet of roses and leave a note that says:

Honey, I am sorry about anything that
I said or did. Can we please work this
out over a cup of tea. Meet me here if
you feel the same. For our children!
I love you, ____________

When she comes greet her kindly and pull her chair out. Tell her you love her and that you don't want your children having two addresses. tell her what you are sorry about and say can we get through this. Then after you work some problems out and she comes back, go see a marriage counselor for a little while to fill in the cracks.

!!!Best of luck!!!

Answer 5

well, i think I'm so similar to your wife. I'm really pissed off with my husband sometimes and really want to divorce him. we argue too much. at least once a week! i feel like he isn't my type. i feel like i am not happy about our marriage.
i think the reasons why is because i am a stay at home mom. my life is dull. i want more from him, but he just can't give enough. he doesn't seem to understand what i want n need. i always think he should give in to me. he shouldn't argue with me. i am the woman, he's the man. he should apologies, do something like some romantic things to win my heart back again like before. he isn't romantic, nice, understanding and caring enuf. what makes me mad the most is he likes to argue with me instead of understanding me and make things up.

he asked me if i wanted to go shopping cos he's quite tired and need rest. i said "then it's fine!" and he really went to sleep! OMG...!! what i wanna hear is "we gog shopping as long as you happy! Oh come on.. he knows i like shopping a lot! but why can't he get my points?? arrh.. men!

sometimes i think a bunch of roses and a surprise candle light dinner really help. but he never did that! he always asks me "where u wanna go for dinner? i have no idea. lets eat Mc Donald." and we ended up eating Mc Donald. i wasn't so happy but he was still enjoying his big mac and didn't know why!

Answer 6

I'll answer from experience. I myself left my husband a month ago because of problems in our relationship. I returned the next day and he took me back. Now, 3 days ago I left again. I didn't completely leave, but I packed up and started to look for a place. But again, I sat down with him, and we talked, and worked things out. I love my husband very much (my situation is way diferent, he has a drinking problem), but we're all humans and marriage is tough. It takes alot of work and alot of commitment. Whoever said love is all you need was never married. Please be patient. And please talk whenever you can. Alot of our misunderstandings were from not saying how we really felt. Plus with her being pregnant, you should expect her to get emotional. But if you love her, and she says she love you, hang in there, it'll work out. But that's the key word. Work.

Answer 7

Arguing with each other, is pointless, its not going to solve anything, hubby and i used to fight constantly, we seperated for about three wks and got back together, within that three wks, i told myself, i dont want to argue over dumb stuff, and we have been back together three months now, so far so good, no fighting over anything were great. If she loves you she will come back, i am sure shes stressed out over this, pregnant women are very emotional.

Answer 8

counseling doesn't have to be done together. You can start on your own. tell her, you want to make your marriage work and are willing to go to whatever lengths. you may find it helps you. you may be able stop reacting and respond. she may see you changing and decide to go. but you can't do it with any expectations. very hard t do, but definately worth the effort. good luck!

Answer 9

She's pregnant. HORMONES< HORMONES< HORMONES> Everything makes her mad, then happy, then sad. Just keep telling her how much you love her. That you think she's beautiful. Sounds like she's being a little dramatic.

Answer 10

she obviously is having sex with some one else,some one else is laying some pipe way up in your wife really deep too