I have a fiance' whom I love very much, but unfortunately I have a huge dilemma. I am going to law school and have the scores to get into very good schools which are all far away from where we live. I know that if I go away to school next year he will not come with because of his 2 kids here, which is understandable. Law school is 3 long stressful years and its quite possible I will be moving across the country to go the best school I can get into. He wants me to stay and go to a mediocre school here, but I'm scared if I do that I will be selling myself short and will always regret it. On the other hand 3 years is a long time be in a long distance relationship, with only 2 years behind us. What would you do?
2006-08-13 18:03:47 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't know all of your situation, but I do know this... While staying behind and going to a not so great school may be fine, you have evidentally worked hard to be able to go to a great school. If the b/f can't understand that, he is being selfish. I say go to the school of your choice, and if you two were meant to be together, your love will stand the test. Besides that, if you sell yourself short, you m,ay come to resent him for it.
2006-08-13 18:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you think about the end result for each of your choices, you may see that going to a better school far away wouldn't make you a better attorney. The law is the law, only one way to teach it. You are the one to make your career happen, not the school you go to. My ex-husband is a great attorney, with a great job, graduated top of his class, and went to a smaller law school. Love and happy relationships are what life is really about. Good luck!
2006-08-13 18:38:42 · answer #2 · answered by suezoo5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh, you do have a big dilemma.
It boils down to whether the love between you is strong enough to cause one to sacrifice for the other or withstand the long separation.
I could not tell you, because I don't know you and your fiance and all the circumstances. Neither does anyone here.
I am afraid it is something that only you can assess yourself.
I wish you best of luck and wisdom.
2006-08-13 18:26:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to law school. I question why someone who loves you would not want the best for you. If you stay, I believe your feelings will never be the same towards him. If you stay and break up you will forever regret your lost opportunity.
2006-08-13 18:11:20 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go to law school.
This is your life we 're talking about... Don't base your decision on what someone else wants or feels comfortable with. Do what YOU want...
I don't want to be a pessimist but relationships do fall apart! You shouldn't waste your potential for something like that... After all if it's meant to be, it will last, even as a long-distance relationship!
2006-08-15 08:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe,
we are talking about your life here!In my case I stopped everything I was doing for my fiance,and now our marrige is in turmoil.I have hardly no work experience and if we seperate what will i do?Go to the best school you can and show those old fart attorneys a thing or two!!!!!If he really loves you he will wait.
Best of luck.
2006-08-13 18:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by L.T. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while your away at law school.have him spend as much time with his children..............you need to find the closes school and start there.you need to do what you feel is the best for you....what will make the most money..do you want children.while he will be paying child support.and buy them extras.there support dose not go away just because he is having one more with you.housing,cars,cloths,gas,electric,auto fuel..in three years could be totally out o reach.dont look at tomorrow but look down the road at 3 years.good luck
2006-08-13 18:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by tysgrandma99 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sale yourself short, if its real he'll be their in the end. He shouldn't be so selfish and that's just the beginning you give now. you obviously have a good head on your shoulders, use it and don't let nothing or no one get in your way, you've worked to hard to get where you are, don't settle. He should respect you for it and if the relationships important to him he'll come to be with you or wait on you. This is a good test in a relationship.
2006-08-13 18:12:08 · answer #8 · answered by angelw/brkwingcrookedhalo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have worked hard to get where you are right now, and I think it would be a shame to give up and go to the mediocre school. You will always wonder what if......
2006-08-13 18:13:31 · answer #9 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Law School. If he cares for you and your future in law, he'll support you AND your decision to go where your best opportunity takes you.
2006-08-13 18:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by blakest.anthony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋