My ex-boyfriend who is the father of my kids wants me to sign legal documents concerning the visitation rights. He knows that I want to get back together with him. He told me that if I sign those papers that would put us equal grounds. I just don't trust him and a part of me fears that he's going to use me into signing.
The legal documents are concerning child support but he knows that I can go after him for spousal support and that I have him for suppervised visition because he does have a criminal record.
What should I do. I love him and want to get back with him but I just can't trust him at this point in time.
Need advise.
2006-08-13 17:58:31 · 12 answers · asked by pcummings22000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you don't trust him and you still want to get back together with him? having said that, i say that there is a reason that you don't trust him and DO NOT sign anything.
2006-08-13 18:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by up all night 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not, under any circumstances sign anything. Tell him you want to take the papers he's drawn up and look it over for a few days and then take them to your attorney. Chances are, there is something in there that you aren't seeing. I know you want to sign them, in hopes of something else coming out of it with him, but honey, you have to be smart about this and trust your gut. These are your children we're talking about and their father has a criminal record. Anything could happen. I'd hate to see you on here asking us all the question of how to get your children back after you signed a legal document allowing him to take them. I urge you, for the sake of your babies....Don't do it! The idea that those papers concern child support should be a big red flag. Visitation rights have nothing to do about money and you know this. I also understand that you love and care for him deeply...he's the father of your children, it's understandable. Just don't forget that there is a reason you don't trust him. Only time will tell how this is going to play out. You have that time on your side, use it to your advantage.
2006-08-14 01:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though you love this man and want to get back together with him if those papers say anything ANYTHING about Child Support please do not sign them without consulting an attorney if you do not fully understand what you are signing check with legal aid if you cannot afford a private attorney also some attorneys don't charge an arm and a leg for a small amount of legal advice.
2006-08-14 01:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it seems you need a few months to clear your head regarding your relationships. It's clear from what you say he has no interest in getting bck with you.
As far as the documents go, get them to legal aid and see what they thing. Spousal support is usually very temporary these days, and is becoming a decreasing part of any settlement, based in part on the assumption that both adults will be self-supporting.
2006-08-14 13:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by John F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well try to warm up to him and try to control him thats what I'd do! he may be trying to use you so don't get to close or you might regret it in the future. As for him having a criminal past keep a watchfuleye for anything too suspicious. wait a while before signing those papers and see what he is up to if he seems fine after 1 week - 4 months then you can probably sign them if he seems less suspicious. Hope this helps!!!!!!
2006-08-14 01:10:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking to talk to him for a while, so you both can sort things out. Talk to him about the effect it's going to have on the children, and how you both can work together to be a family, but do not let yourself to be used, even if you do love him. Another option is that you can get legal advice.
2006-08-14 01:07:16 · answer #6 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sign them. He is trying to manipulate you by offering you false hope that you two will get back together. And, by the way, never sign any legal documents without consulting a lawyer.
2006-08-14 01:04:35 · answer #7 · answered by Bethany 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not sign them...It would be a really dumb move and he cant force you to sign anything...Tell the judge what he is doing and the judge will take care of this.....
2006-08-14 01:08:46 · answer #8 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your instincts are probably correct. Do what is in the best interest of that child. Remember there are a lot of dead beat dads out there....so you are fortunate that he wants to be involved. Encourage him to be involved.
2006-08-14 01:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first responsibility is to your children. Any man that uses his children as leverage is no man worth having in your life at all.
2006-08-14 01:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by RDiddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋