is it better to have intercorse when your married or before?

Question

EXPLAIN WHY?

Answer 1

Well, I know it won't be p.c., but before. Marriage is more than a freindship. It is a relationship that must be at least a little sexual in nature to be happy. Partly, it depends on how much this matters to both. If you are not sexually compatible, though, it can and does cause many problems. I don't think that just because you love someone it's enough to make a happy marriage. I've known a few people who have waited and it's about 50/50 on how happy they are. For me, it was and is important and I always wanted to know what I was getting into sexually before I made a commitment to marry anyone.

Answer 2

Before.

Sex isn't something that's magical or spiritual or special the way that it has been advertised. After you've done it for a while it's ore mechanical than anything else.

The word of advice that is actually trying to be passed along to you younger folk is that you don't want to do a loser, a wanna be player, or any person that you are going to regret looking back in your life. The real fact of the matter is that if you have sex when you are too young, you are not going to be a good judge of a person's character no matter what. So in turn it's most likely that you are going to do something that you regret because you are just to stupid to know any better. THAT'S why you need to wait until you are older, or have some kind of commitment out of the other person. It's better for you in the end.

Answer 3

1. It depends upon how long you have been a couple.

2. If it's safe to say that the two of you will be wed soon, I would to see if you are both going to be compatible in that area.

3. I know of many couples that divorced because of size incompatibility — very painful sex for the women, and no fun for the men either having to worry about hurting her. How many ways can you come up with for having a headache?

4. May sound absurd, but sex is not too be taken lightly. You wouldn't buy clothes without trying them on to see if they fit.

5. Someone will walk, or eventually wander if they're not satisfied. If there's too much pain & no gain, resentment will build — best to find out before than after.

Answer 4

There are highs and lows to both sides of this issue. Many people say it's best to wait until you are married so you are pure for your partner. If you do that, though, you'll never know if it could have been better with someone else. But many relationships often end and then you're left with emotional baggage. If you dont' sleep around, you have a lot less baggage.

The real question should be...are you ready to handle the responsibilities that come with sex?

Answer 5

Personally, knowing if I was compatible in bed with someone is something I want to know before I get married. I once had a boyfriend and the first kiss was incredibly awful, if I got married an found out the sex was that bad I would be divorced in a week.

Answer 6

its better to have intercorse after, just make sure you find your hot spots and comfortable partner size with a sex toy first, this way you can visually size up the guys without having to do anything.

Answer 7

I think it's best to have intercourse before because let's say for example your husband loves sex, and you hate it. That will cause a huge problem in your marriage, and you'll probably end up in divorce. Also when I said that you should have sex before your married, I never meant you should have sex all the time. You should wait to share it with someone special.

Answer 8

Its always better before.
You see there is a legend that everytime a couple has sex during the first year of marriage they put a bean in a jar for the first year. After one year, everytime they have sex they take a bean out of the jar. The legend goes that no one has ever gotten all the beans out of the jar.

Answer 9

It's actually better if you have sex before you're married. Imagine getting married to a guy only to find out he's lousy in the sack? And you're stuck with him.... FOREVER?? Dun dun dun....

Having sex before marriage is a great way to learn things about yourself, what you like, and what kind of men you're interested in. You'd be surprised.

Answer 10

Sex maybe a big step for some people- trust is essential (married?)and intimacy is never definite (married?) - nowadays I'd wait for a blood test but back in the lesser STD days.......