I have been planning a little surprise for my wife and daughter for when my daughter doesn't have to work. When I found out a few days ago that my daughter didn't have to work monday or tuesday I thought that would be a great time for the surprise. Since the three of us rarely do anything together I thought a nice couple of days away from home doing fun things together would be healthly and terrific. Instead of me surprising them...they surprised me.... when I got home from work I found out that my daughter had a friend staying for a couple of days. My wife never asks me my opinion of anything or if I have plans for anything. She just does what she wants. All it would have taken was a phone call but I guess the telephone is too heavy or is she being inconsiderate? What would you do? This has happened in the past too.....she always asks me why I didn't say anything? Doesn't people like surprises anymore?
2006-08-13 17:46:01 · 5 answers · asked by bad boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't think she was trying to be mean or rude. Just plan out everything, and try to have more communication with her. Then tell them, and maybe have a gift for them while you take that trip. Not everything can be kept a secret, or works out the you want it to work out, it's happened to me with my parents, and I have a long way till i get married.
2006-08-13 17:55:04 · answer #1 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be planning a surprise for your wife and daughter when it sounds like the three of you have grown apart. The best gift a man can give to his child, is to love their mother.
You need to go back to the basics. Love your wife.
Make a life with your wife.
Respect her.
Once you are back on track, the rest will fall into place. And when it does, it is a beautiful thing!
It is not your fault alone, the two of you lost "the dream", or what ever motivated the two of you to plan a family together.
Then you both started to live separate lives.
This problem I have had myself with my husband. It took 6 months to repair.
I am very happy now. But I NO LONGER try to change the things I do not like about him now. They are things I can live with. But at least WE have a life that we live TOGETHER now.
I'm not perfect
His not perfect
TOGETHER WE ARE PERFECT
And now the kids ask me if there are any family plans they will need to attend, prior to making their own personal plans.
2006-08-13 18:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we become too busy to think clearly. What you should do is take out your wife for dinner and explain to her how you feel.I am sure she loves you and would work hard to make you happy. Plus if yo dont tell her how would she ever know. Let her understand you as a person what you to expect out of you. I would never imagine my husband surprising me because in all our years of marriage he never once did. Thats the type of guy he is. Its just like that make her know the true you.
Good luck
2006-08-13 17:51:49 · answer #3 · answered by WICCA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain the situation to them the next chance you get. That was inconsiderate of them, but as you say, you 3 are leading different lives, and its easy to "get out of rhythm." This is your chance to get the 3 of you back together. Good luck!
2006-08-13 17:53:37 · answer #4 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats your problem again?
2006-08-13 17:50:15 · answer #5 · answered by mary_parenteau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋