with a controlling alcoholic prick. 10 years is too much to handle and i want out now. anybody else feel me?
2006-08-13 17:32:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just do it. Life will get better the minute you commit to yourself and take control of your life. If someone asked you, "Hey, I know this guy who's an alcoholic prick. Ya wanna go out with him??", you'd think they were nuts. You've only got one life, spend it wisely. Don't waste time. Be happy.
2006-08-13 17:37:38 · answer #1 · answered by omchanti 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hi that was me 8 years ago...I was in just about the same bind I stayed we also have a 14yr old the 18 graduated and is living on her own. And the 14yr old loves her dad. And I am the lonelest person in this world. My kids love me that gets me by my husband is still the big prick he was then. Maybe that's why I'm here and not w/him watching TV I like it better right here
2006-08-13 17:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs help and has to seek it for himself. He did not grow up thinking he wanted to be a alcoholic. Sadly it happened to him. He has choices though he needs to get clean or everyone is going to leave. Your doing the right choice maybe if you leave he will seek AA. If he does that does not mean you should go back to him but hopefully he gets clean and straightens up especially if there are kids involved. Take care and have a happy life.
2006-08-13 17:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am in themiddle of adivorce from a man I was married to for ten years. It is amazing how you can love someone and hate them at the same time. I am sorry for you. Please do this. Write down a plan. Just step by step. Like this
1. find apartment
2. find out whose name utlities are in
3. look for AA classes and wriste list to give to him.
etc. all of the little things you have to do to get out. then cross them off. if it a plan, you will follow it much easier. Good luck, honey.
2006-08-13 17:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by woogieuh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You make the decision to move on, and then you follow through with your actions. It's not going to be easy, because 10 years is not a short period of time. You've gotten used to having him with you, good or bad, so it's going to take a bit of getting used to.
But it sounds like you know what you will and will not tolerate, so just trust your own judgment and don't give in.
Good luck. :o)
2006-08-13 17:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by epiCure 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he works, wait until he goes, book the Uhaul for the morning. Have friends help you load up. LEAVE HIM A BOTTLE OF WHATEVER HE LOVES, and set yourself free and I mean run like a son of a gun. After ten year you could be in serious danger. No joke, been there, done that, got the knife to my throat..
2006-08-13 17:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by Janis N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, the fact that you called him an alcoholic prick should indicate that it's over, at least to you. It sounds like you have more hatred than love towards him so yes, please end it now. Good luck!
2006-08-13 17:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by bunny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've only been in a relationship for half that time. And since that time my fiancee has started smoking cigars for at least a couple weeks now, which to be honest irritates the hell out of me. I wish I can get her to stop completely, but it doesn't seem to work, plus her attitude sometimes changes as well.
2006-08-13 17:39:22 · answer #8 · answered by mwr_speedy 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
become a controlling alcoholic prick too. People can't date someone like themselves
2006-08-13 17:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by repentant sinner 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Been there done that..........You didn't mention if you were married , if so get a divorce right away...If he won't leave you alone get a restraining order....Start looking for a nice guy believe me they are out there and will show up when you least expect it Good Luck
2006-08-13 17:37:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋