Hey well First of I am not gay, bi, curious or anything else like that. I don't know what the hell happened. I was hanging out talking with my fiance's dad got really drunk, and the next morning I woke up naked in bed with him. I know what you're gonna say that how do I know that we actually did anything together. Trust me I know. I wont say how, but I know. I just don't know what to do. We're getting married next month. I know I have to tell her. I also know it's really gonna **** things up. I just don't know how to tell her, or what to do.
2006-08-13 17:32:19 · 27 answers · asked by Big Steve 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
did you just watch son-in-law with pauly shore? and just exchange the chick for your soon to be father in law? and the car to a bed??
oh and i don't think that it's a secret with your fiance...if it did happen. you know how read dads are.
2006-08-13 17:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yep your right it might f things up not only for you but her relationship with her dad. also is he still married with her mum if so there goes another relationship. Could this have been rape ? if so get some legal advice. If you consented to this whether you were drunk or not there is no excuse to what you have done and the damage you may have coursed many people involved. I am not blaming just you as her dad is also responsible for this. how your going to tell her about this I really don't know. but you have to consider other people involved. I am sorry you had no control over what was happening at the time. Now this should be a lesson learnt and take control of your drinking. know what your limit is. I would not get married until this has been solved maybe seek some counselling/advice from a professional first.All the best of luck
2006-08-14 00:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs Magoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) YOU drink toooo much...get to AA and cut out drinking all together. You are NOT a good candidate for alcohol
2) Keep your mouth shut! Don't be stupid. If you were that drunk, how in the hell do you know what happened...you don't tell us, I don't care, and keep it to yourself, whatever you think happened
3) IF her father tried or did something with you, trust me, he ain't telling no one! This lunacy is between you two, leave it at that. Somethings are far left alone, and this is one of them.
4) This is too far off the wall to be real. You may have an over active imagination, and if you go telling something that didn't happen, you are going to be out in the cold, no matter how you look at it.
5) HONESTY is NOT always the best policy. Her father is going to deny anything that may or may not have happened, you are going to look like a raving lunatic, and she will tell you to take a hike. KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT and stay sober forever more...I don't care who tells you what here.
2006-08-14 00:50:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm im pretty sure if you have sex with a man and your a man that makes you a queer,question is did you smoke his pole ,because now your girlfriend gets to taste her dad ,shes not gonna be happy,what the hell where you thinking ,being drunk isnt an excuse,i never been that drunk,to not know what i was doing,your full of it ,you musta liked it ,hell why dont you just do the rest of the family too
2006-08-14 00:40:01 · answer #4 · answered by spinininthemud 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like I've heard this exactly same question, even worded the same way, from a few different scree names. Is this some fantasy you want feed back on or can you just not figure out that you need to deal with it and in a sense, you're ******?
2006-08-14 00:35:19 · answer #5 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude! your Bi. you may not wish to admit it and thats fine, thats your choice, Gods greatest gift to man is free will, however you really need to get together with her dad and talk about what happened and you both need to sit down with your fiancee and tell her the truth, don't wait any longer better to tell her now and let her use Gods greatest gift and decide wether she wants to go on with your plans.
2006-08-14 06:12:39 · answer #6 · answered by Bayne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do now is to be honest and tell her. Because if you don't, her dad might first and then how would that look? Also, if you go into this marriage never having told her what transpired, it would be the biggest and hardest secret of your life to keep. It will be difficult, you may lose her in the end, but it's the right thing to do.
2006-08-14 00:36:45 · answer #7 · answered by bunny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell her in the privacy of your home. Don't blurt it out in front of friends/family. She is the only one who should be alerted to the situation. Just be calm, and explain to her that you made a very horrible mistake and drinking was involved. Tell her you love her dearly and hope that this will not alter your relationship together too much. Once you tell her, she will probably be upset, but if she loves you, she will stay with you still. Do not wait to tell her after you get married.
2006-08-14 00:38:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
O lord you need some real help.. or just give me her number.. ill call her for you and tell her.. so she wont here the alwful news from you.. but once she finds out you probley wont be in her life nomore.. man how could you do that.. are you sure your not gay, bi, or curious???
2006-08-14 00:35:56 · answer #9 · answered by LoVe To SHop!! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You pose this question one month back and you had got sufficient answers , now what is the need to pose this question again after one month . Any way do not open your mouth in front of your girl , otherwise you will loose everything for ever .
2006-08-14 00:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u was sooo drunk & u didnt know what happened coz u passed out. d next thing u know is that ur in bed, naked, with her dad beside u. well...maybe he took advantage of u. maybe he's d one who's gay, right?
2006-08-14 00:44:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋