engagement ring?

Question

Is it right for a girl to refuse to give back an engagement ring if she is the one to call off the engagement and no longer wants to work on the relationship even though there is no question the man has been faithful, has not been violent , and does want to work out the problems?

Answer 1

legally speaking ... if she called off the engagement she is supposed to give the ring back

... if he called it off she is entitled to keep it

depending on the value of the ring it may be worth court action to either get the ring back or get compensation for the value of it

Answer 2

legally, yes it right
morally no
but then why would you argue
take it as a loss
and you may THINK you are good and all that
but if she has reservations and is backing out
there is something to you that she does not like
even if you were to "work" it out, that indicates an underlying problem with you
no matter what the reason, if you cannot take the finacial loss ( and forget about the saving face issue.. as it's a moot point ), then you probaly should not be getting married anyways
hopefully you learn from this in that
NEVER give a girl a engagement ring.. NEVER do it
give her a cheap ring and call it a stake in your future
if she quibbles on it , dump her right there on the spot
if you are who you say you are , then you have no problem finding a women who take a cheap ring as stake in your future ( btw NEVER call it a promise ring either.. keep it vague.. )
when you are ready to get married.. get her to sign a prenup.. if she refuses..
dump her on the spot
no 2nd chances
any girl who would come back and say they'll sign after the fact is a girl who divorce you later with a very good lawyer at her side
and when the day comes
keep it simple
do not invest big bucks for what in all purposes is a 1 day show off contest
5 years from now after you more than likely divorce
no one will care much less remember you "special" ( really her special ) day...and no one will want to see your photos or the video..

you've been warned

Answer 3

She can keep it. Did you put a curse on it first though?

Just kidding. I'm a guy, so it would seem that she should give it back, unless she is still interested in marrying you at some point. Why would she want to keep a ring from you for engagement? Do you think she's going to keep wearing it? Do you think she will wear it when she gets engaged by someone else? Wear two engagement rings? Or tell her new intended "Oh, you don't have to give me an engagement ring. I already have one."

The only reason I can see for her to keep it is to sell it for the money. That's a cold shot if you ask me. You should be glad you haven't married her if she is going to be like that. What kind of marriage do you think you would have had with her? Maybe she is just a gold digger.

I feel for you pal. What she did sucks big time.

Answer 4

The girl can do with it whatever she wants. But if she's called off the engagement, I wonder what she would want to keep the ring for? Clearly not for any sentimental reasons; it would only be for the money. So I wouldn't think particularly highly of someone who REFUSED to give the ring back.

It's one of those weird situations where the girl shouldn't want to give it back, and the guy shouldn't want to take it.

Answer 5

traditionally, the ring is seen as a gift and it now belongs to the girl to do whatever it is she pleases with it.

However! this day in age...engagements are usually arrived at through discussion rather than proposal so the ring is sort of mutual. And even if there is a proposal, it is polite for the woman to give back the ring.

Answer 6

Morally she should give back the ring if she was the one to call off the engagement. But, because the ring was a gift, it is hers to do with as she pleases.

Answer 7

It is not right, but she is within her rights...it was a gift. Be more careful who you give things to in the future. And, trust me, what goes round comes round...no doubt about it. It is customary for the woman to return the ring if she ends the engagement, FOR ANY REASON. But there is nothing you can do about it. Good luck

Answer 8

She's calling off the engagement and the guy has done nothing "wrong" to justify her dumping him, but she still wants to keep the ring?

Wow.

She sounds like a REAL winner - he's better off without her.

Answer 9

the girl should give it back regardless of the situation, i would not want a ring that was meant for me or was not given to me because of love otherwise it is just because the value of ring and if a woman bases your relationship on the cost of a ring then you dont her, good luck

Answer 10

No.

An engagement ring is a symbol, not a gift. If the love is refused the symbol should be returned. (Otherwise she is just a money grubbing whore that you dont want in your life anyway.)