I lost a good friend several years ago...?

Question

Due to me being in a bad point in my life. New city, new "friends" (who really didn't care to know me all that well). She had been my best friend for over 12 years, and I was under so much stress I couldn't talk to her or anyone about what I was going through.

We had a fight - a really bad one. I never got a chance to apologise to her and have sent her a couple of emails trying to patch things up. She won't respond.

Should I just give up or continue to try and make contact with her again? She's one of the few people I've met in my life who I have a deep relationship with.

Answer 1

I would contact her and tell her that I was sorry, and explain where I was coming from, and leave it up to her to contact you back. If she does not then, this could mean that what ever happened hurt her to bad to forgive, or that she has moved on. But you will feel better knowing that you have tried, and this will put closer on this relationship.

Everyone makes mistakes. The main thing to learn from this is, that you may being going through a lot, but you have to be careful of other people you care about feelings, because when whatever you are going through is over the person you care about might not be there. I have made this mistake, and I have lost a friend, but I apologized and they did not forgive me, I was in the wrong, but there was nothing I could do. So, I said good-bye, and just remember not to make the same mistake twice. With every new friend/relationship, I keep this in mind not to run another friend off.

hope this helps

Answer 2

Anyone who sticks beside you for twelve years is great. Plenty of marriages don't even last that long. Like a good marriage, a deep relationship with a friend is hard to find, and hard to hold on to.

Something that puzzles me is that you lost her several years ago, but you say you have only sent her a couple of emails. The more you put into a relationship, the more you get out of it. You have to want to take the time and effort to mend your relationship. I think with the right amount of convincing, anyone can turn around.

I don't know what your emails were like, but I would try writing some longer ones, ones that will show her that you took time to write. Explain your side in detail, and show her through words how you really feel. Also, I wouldn't use any IMing abbreviations.

Good luck.

Leo

Answer 3

I was in almost the same situation until a few months ago, now my old best friend and I are back in contact and it feels so good just to have it off of my chest. We still aren't the same, but it's good to just talk. I would try to write another e-mail that is heartfelt and telling her that you messed up and apologize and that she is one of the only people you've ever had a deep realtionship with and ask her to please respond. If she still doesn't respond, i think you should let it go. Hopefully she will respond and you two can make up. My friend forgave me and it was one of the best feelings in the world. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes I would continue to send e-mails telling her how you were feeling in that time of your life. Tell her that you were a bad friend and if she would of done that to you that you would be upset with her too. But also tell her that your friendship means alot to you and that you are truly sorry and that you want and need her back in your life. Good friends are hard to find.Good luck.

Answer 5

If she is that good of a friend, then there is nothing else for you to do except whatever it takes to regain her friendship.

Answer 6

continue to try

Answer 7

Gurl go to her house........ and .. knock on her door....and like say... yo homie...... we go wayyyyy back... i miss yew .. lol .. idk be lame ....