About my husband's ex wife...?

Question

My husband and his ex wife have a child together, and i tag along on the visits because me and my husband also have a child and i want the children to see eachother as well. but when we go down there, every single time, this happens : the ex wife will either get down on the floor with her butt in the air in front of my husband pretending to "play with the kids" or wear really short skirts and blouses <---- which is nasty to begin with because shes 5'5'' and 340 pounds. my husband is way over her and doesnt even bat an eye when she tries to "show off". shes a big lady and im petite and short compared to her. if i stand up to her and tell her off, im afraid she will overpower me. i know my husband would break up the fight and defend me, but i dont want him to have to do that. what can i do to show that i can kill her with kindness? shes a very large woman and i know if we get into a fight, she can easily smother me with just her belly fat. any suggestions? i am new to this "ex wife" deal

I am new to it because its just been recently that shes been acting like this. used to, she didnt show off or act stupid or wear show off things, but now she is and its getting to the point where enough is enough.

my husband has dropped hints and she seems to either be blind deaf and dumb to them or shes just wanting to ignore.

Cloeen, what are you talking about? this is the first time ive asked about this. your talking about someone else.

Saying these things does not make me selfish. I am tired of seeing her make a fool of herself. Im tired of her dropping rude comments about me (in front of me!). she smirks at me, and dresses like a whore in front of my husband. that is not selfish. its called "getting ready to stand up and take action". i dont want my child to see this. hes not old enough yet. hes just 13 months old. but soon enough he can see it and understand it and Im not going to let him notice how she acts in front of my husband and the children.

Answer 1

Well it seems you are a very intelligent lady.You have nothing to worry about.I suggest you ask your husband to speak to her if you are uncomfortable.Maybe visits need to be somewhere else for a while.Its apparent she has some issues she doesnt want to deal with right now.Its appears you have a strong marriage and your husband loves you.We cant fix other peoples problems but you dont have to be apart of them either.She needs help.Good Luck.

Answer 2

Have you considered the possibility she's just doing this to be vindictive with you in the hopes of annoying you and get you all worked up, even though your husband couldn't give a flying duck about it? Sounds like she's just jealous of you. If it doesn't bother your husband, then don't let it bother you. Personally, I would just laugh my a** off if this happened to me. Not only is it silly, it's downright hillarious!
I don't, however, recommend telling her what to do inside her own home. That is her business. And unless her indecency also bothers the children, I would just laugh it all off as nothing but jealousy.

Answer 3

Just totally ignore her. She's winning if she gets to you! You have him, you sound way better than her, just smile, hold your husband's hand, maybe even giggle a little bit with him, and when you're done, go on a date with your husband a laugh a bit! Don't give her the power! Remember: you've already won!

Answer 4

You don't have anything to worry about. There are reasons she is the "ex" and he is in love with you and married to you now. He is there for the kids, and so are you. Let her act like an idiot, you can't control her. She is making herself look silly, and your husband sounds like he thinks it's pretty gross, but just don't try to contol the situation, because you can't anyways, and what does it matter....just be glad that you are not acting foolish like that. Put your trust in God and in the vows that you and your husband took, and everything will be fine. Relax and enjoy the fact that your kids can play together, and that you are in love. My best to you.

Answer 5

I feel ya. Attractive or not that would make me ready to stand up to her as well. Since you surely don't want to fight her especially in front of the kids. Besides the fact that would just make you look jealous in your husbands eyes you can do one of two things. First off why is she at these visits hanging out? Is it supervised custody? If not ask your husband if someone else in her family can handle the drop off until she starts acting like a lady. Other choice is fire with fire.... Oops is that cottage cheese their? Oops nope I was mistaken. You can be sweet as molasses with the fake smiles and all can't you?

Answer 6

If he doesn't notice, make it a point not to notice either. As long as he's not responding, then you have nothing to worry about. Make it a joke with your husband if you can, and learn to laugh it off. Confronting her will only make the situation worse - she is probably doing it to irritate you, and it's working. She is obviously not a threat to you or your husband, she doesn't seem to be hurting or threatening your seemingly happy family - let it go.

Do something nice for yourself everytime you make it through a visit if you have to - tell yourself you made it through the visit, you laughed off her crazy antics, and now you get a pedicure!

That sounds better to me! :)

Answer 7

As long as your husband is not showing any interest, I would not bother to address it. You need to think of two things, A. your own personal safety and B. your stepchild who has done nothing wrong and just wants to spend time with "Daddy". Honestly, let it go. He obviously moved onto something better (you) and isn't going back. I Be confident in your husband's love for you

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Don't compare yourself with your husband ex wife. Actually you are trying to tell us bad thing about your husband ex wife, how ugly and how fat she is and how good you are. You are not her, you don't understand how hurts she feel. You don't have to be kind because if you are a kind woman you will not talk bad about her. You can't be kind because you are selfish, only thinking about yourself.

Answer 10

It takes a lady to walk away. She is jeoleous of you! You have her ex. She is a ex for a reason. Also she is FAT. Honey, I would laugh at her when she does this. Do not fight in front of your husband or his children that would make you look bad to him and to your children.. Do not let her know she gets to you or she will get worse. She is trying to get a reaction out of you. I think your husband is Over her but he is your husband not hers. Laugh every time she does it and you and your husband leave or go to another room she will get the message, she makes you two sick. Do not be jeoleous of someone who does not have morals.. Good luck and you are the lady... Zella