My Friend's Parents Got A Divorce.......?

Question

Ok, one of my closest friend's parents just got a divorce. I am really worried about her because she doesn't express her feelings to anyone. And please dotn say that is a good thing, because I know isn't. Her mom and dad are both with someone else now and when I look at ther when eather her mom or her dad's new dates she looks blank just like a ghost or something. It scares me. I don't want her getting messed up when she is older. Plus she was really spoiled by her mom and got like really expensive stuff. She also has a little sister whom I am worried about too, but she expresses her feelings more. I want 2 talk 2 my friend about it, but i'm not sure if i should or how too! HELP ME!

Answer 1

It is wonderful to have a friend, and I am happy she has you! Right now, the only thing you can do, is be there for her. Never criticize her parents about anything, if you do she isn't going to feel free to talk to you. Never repeat anything she tells you in confidence,if you do, she won't feel free to talk. She still loves both her parents, she is really having trouble adjusting to the new lifestyle. Invite her to the movies, or anywhere the two of you like to go. Don't question her about the family situation, just let her talk when she gets ready.

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Answer 3

If she is your best friend she needs you to just be there. She will talk when she is ready. Let her know that even though you have not been through her situation that you care for her and are there if she needs anything. From a buddy to talk to or a person to just scream at the top of her lungs with to get the pain out. If and when she does open up urge her to have a sit down with both of her parents and let them know how much this is hurting her. They need to know how she feels. They may be wrapped so far into their new beginnings that they don't realize the disaster they are causing in their children's lives. Maybe she can ask them to chill on bringing the new love interest around until she feels more comfortable with the changes.

Answer 4

she's probally ton in loyalty
and when and if she gets married she too wil divroce 85% more likely than one who who comes from still married parents
spoiling a gilr is a cheap way of buying her off and indeed maybe that was the mothers intention
she ( your friend ) will probably expect the same treatment from any man she meets, and will be used because of it from other men
worse yet usally in a divorce the parents ( 1 or both ) will poison a childs mind about the other party, this further confuses the child and hampers there ability to clearly see people for how they are and not for how they might be.
give her time
she might not feel confortable telling anyone yet
even her best freind
she may feel akward and unloved and will want to feel like someone does lover her and she is not sort of unplanned accident..
what usaully ends up happening is she find a father figure, hook up and get pregnant
just so she can have her own family so that in her mind she controls the outcome and everyone stay together, though it rareely stays that way

Answer 5

Don`t metion it to her, try to hang out with her, but don`t bring it up try and keep her mind off it as much as possible. Make her feel like it`s not even happening, she`ll soon accept that it`d prob be better this way. All you can do is keep being a good true friend to her, and always being there for her. Not to seem mean, but the whole world is like this these days, its like a normal thing for parents to be split up, it is a rarity to find a couple still together for beyond 20 years and not divorced. Good Luck

Answer 6

You are a true friend. When parents divorce it is really difficult on the children. Their world seem to shatter and the future looks gloomy.
Do reach out to her. Hug and touch and let her know divorces are so common now days. When the love is gone between adults, it is best they separate and seek out their happiness. Unfortunately,the kids take a back seat.
Encourage her to see her school counselor. Just being there for her will help her adjust. Time is the only healer.
God bless you.

Answer 7

My best friend's parents got divorced almost a year ago. She had to live in my house for almost a week & everything. I think you should try letting her come to you, and maybe give her some space & time to think for a while. Maybe try to get her mind off it by hanging out and doing something fun. See what happens if you don't ask about it or talk about it. Maybe she'll feel like she can trust you more and open up.

Answer 8

Make pen friendship with her. maybe 2 the strangers she can open up & maybe she cares 2 much for saying up wrong things 2 the people she knows. Dont tell her that u r her pen friend.

Answer 9

unfortunately, the only thing you can do is be there for your friend. she would appreciate you more if you were there to support her through this time. my cousins who have gone through that same situation. four of my cousins - all sisters - their parents went through a couple of separations until they came to a decision to get a divorce. he ran off with a much younger woman, practically a girl, and they havent seen or heard from their father since. my aunt has had to raise her kids all on her own. my other aunt has bn doing it tough too. she went through a divorce many years ago and had to raise her three kids all on her own. her youngest daughter turned out to be a rebel and went into drugs and sex. she's my age too, just turned nineteen. my cousins amy, and hew twin brothers, their parents recently went through a divorce. it was hard on them, especially on amy. her parents moved on with their lives, they both got a girlfriend and a boyfriend in their life and obviously are living in separate houses. they rarely get to see their children as each one of them has moved out. my cousin amy moved out at eighteen, and my twin cousins moved out just after the divorce. i myself have a friend who's parents have gone through a divorce. its a guy friend, but he's gay. he was made to live with his father while his mother moved out. they just couldnt cope. as a friend, i gave him time to try to cope, and i would see him at school crying over it. the more i was there for him, the more he felt he could depend on me and saw me as a good friend. he's now a happier person and has taken an interest in my love life - he's trying to work on setting me up with his friend and has made that really obvious, though i dont wanna say anything. he still gets to see his mother from time to time. she's a nice person, and she'll most probably be there on his nineteenth birthday which is really soon - this month. mayb you're friend is thinking of the high possibility that her parents would never get back together. the more you talk about it with her, the more she'd get upset over it. the first thing you should always do at a time like this is give them some space to absorb this. once your friend is ready, she will talk. i know its hard, but she needs to come to the realisation that mayb this was the best thing for her parents. mayb they were tired with fighting with one another constantly, or mayb it was something else. for whatever reason, she needs to learn to be able to support them in their decisions and she will still be able to see her parents, just not together. mayb you can show her how to get back to having a good time too.

Answer 10

u should speak to her bcoz she is ur friend and sometimes the other person feel that u might not be ineterested in listening to her problrm so they dont tell anyone.so u should take initiative and ask her and keep her busy with other things so that she wont think more about her mom and dad.and do same with her sis too.(this is what i feel)