i usto weigh 180 and i went down to 130 just for him........i did everything i could to be with him and all he does is say your just not for me and he still flirts with me and that makes me fell worse when he does cause he telling me no but he is showing signs of yes .......y are some guys jerks?
2006-08-13 16:53:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
For one, you can't make someone love you. And unless he said that he would if you lost 50 pounds then he doesn't owe you anything. And honestly, most men are jerks. But then again, we can all be bitches too.
2006-08-13 16:57:27 · answer #1 · answered by queenblafalot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you...losing the weight. I'm sure there's someone out there that would appreciate you weighing 180 or 130. Don't waste your time stroking his ego....he doesn't sound like he's worth the effort. You may not believe it now, but it's only a matter of time you'll move on, and he will probably be dialing your #. It will be your turn to tell him that "he's not for you". Good Luck in the future and never let another human being make you feel bad about who you are!!! God Bless.
2006-08-14 00:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by krazedkayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on losing weight. It is really hard to lose weight, I just lost 20lbs. You should feel great that you lost all that weight. But he is not worth it. Just ignore him when he flirts with you. Maybe he does not realize what he is doing. Just treat him like a friend. But if you really want him then just tell him how you feel. Just don't tell him that you lost the weight for him, cause that sounds needy. Hope this helps. :)
2006-08-14 00:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by meesh_nicole 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He flirts with you because he enjoys the ego trip of knowing he can still get your attraction no matter what he does. Stop enabling him and ignore him instead. Use your new figure to impress some other guy.
PS. It's not just men who act this way -- some women do as well.
2006-08-14 00:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Blenderhead 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right! some guys are jerks!!!! I think you should start loving yourself! If a guy doesn't appreciate you,move on!!! You have made a great accomplishment in your weight loss! celebrate the new healthier you and move on with your life!!! You missed one bus,so catch another!!! The next one will definitely lead you in the right direction ,if you just put yourself first! Best wishes!!!
2006-08-13 23:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well play the game right its all about wheather you let that guy take you for granted or not in your case you did but its not too late play it right dont be easily available be a bit rude show him that your important try some dating tips and articles on this site
2006-08-13 23:57:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is playing with your mind you deserve someone who is better than him. he is being a jerk because you allow him to be this way to you if you don't allow him to be this way to you then he won't people can only affect you how you let them to do such. You need to remember that you are the only one who can choose how you are going to allow people to affect you and you esteem sound like you need to take a hard look at yourself and realize that you should not be doing things for men (such as loosing weight) you need to do things for yourself and if you are not good enough for the man then he is not the right one for you even if you want him to be..... the perfect man for you will allow you to be yourself no matter what with imperfections and all because you are human and we all have faults and it's okay to be this way because this is the way that GOD intended us to be
2006-08-13 23:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by i love my dog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They just are.Don't flirt back,give him a cold shoulder.He said your not for him but still flirts with you.He want to keep you hanging on just in case things don't go well with someone else.Cut him off completely.
2006-08-14 00:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all Congrats on losing the weight! Second move on and find someone that will like you and treat you right!
2006-08-13 23:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by chicata25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHY would you lose weight for anyone but yourself? You need to do things like that for yourself...not for anyone else...I can't believe you said that never mind did that for someone else....so he doesn't want to be with you..find someone who does...ignore his flirting or tell him to stop it...I'm sure you didn't like reading what I had to say...but I can tell you...I didn't like what you had to say either...remember...DO IT FOR YOU!!!!!!!
2006-08-13 23:57:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋