how come no matter what i always feel down?

Question

How come I am a nice person but yet I always feel like there is no point in me bing here.

i get a girl friend and it goes great and then i feel like i dont have what it takes to please her and every time i get close tto sex i chicken out cuz i dont feel comfortable "DOWN THERE" and i am alwasy picked on im a pretty big guy for my age 15 yrs old 6 foot and 205lbs i feel uncomfortable with my self i have no self confidence i am adopted and i feel like no body wants me

i dont understand why i am here and i feel i am pointless and i get a girl friend and it goes great and then i feel like i dont have what it takes to please her and every time i get close tto sex i chicken out cuz i dont feel comfortable "DOWN THERE" and i am alwasy picked on im a pretty big guy for my age 15 yrs old 6 foot and 205lbs i feel uncomfortable with my self i have no self confidence i am adopted and i feel like no body wants me

Answer 1

since you're still in school, maybe you could speak with a school counselor? sounds like you have some self esteem issues. being adopted into a loving family is great but just knowing that you were given up by your biological parents can leave pyschological damage later on in life.

if youknow that you are not comfortable with yourself, why not challenge yourself to live healthier. get on a workout plan, eat a good diet and maybe turn some fat into muscle. i'm sure that will help you in boosting your self confidence.

and hey..don't worry about it... take your time. LOVE will find you...don't go chasing after it.

i would definitely speak to a school counselor and get on that workout plan and i'm sure that you'll be feeling at least a little bit better about yourself and your life

and just please tell yourself that you were born for a reason. if you weren't, you couldn't have been born. whether you are here to teach another person, maybe change a particular person's life, maybe to bring a child of your own... who knows... but the fact that you were born, is a guarantee that you are here for a reason

best of luck to you

Answer 2

Therapists are helpful, to start why not do some self-reflection and try to see at what point this begin? Sometimes it's a series of factors and events that can rattle our confidence. If you can identify these underlying things you know where to improve upon. I actually hate to sound like that because it's not that easy. Once your run down and stop believing in yourself, it's really hard to get back up. You can also become insecure from comparing yourself to others that are more successful. The thing we overlook is the sacrifice, committment and determination most of those people have to get where they are. Additionally, you can't blame yourself for things you had no control over. In a why being honest with yourself is the first step of empowerment.

Answer 3

Ok, most people answering you are positively deluded. This is my personal opinion - I was depressed for about 2 years, I had been for a long time but it manifested with post traumatic shock. I was hallucinating, I had panic attacks, I couldnt leave the house, I hated EVERYTHING. My doctors (I had 4 psychiatrists, 4 councillors and 2 nuerologists) all told me there WAS NO CURE!! That everyday was going to be an uphill battle against 'my illness' think positive thoughts they said, make happy memories they said, take these drugs. All of it only made me WORSE until I got up the courage to take my life back. A purpose, thats what saved me. Ok, the world might be in the toilet, there are no answers, but THIS is what IM going to do, everyday, and no one will tell me different! I still battle depressive feelings and hallucinations everyday, but my life gets me through, my own goals, my own needs. Keep yourself happy, thats the only solution.

Answer 4

Sound like you're suffering from depression: don't worry because it's an illness and can be treated and cured, and you can be back to your regular, positive self in no time.
When you have a down time in your life, it can take away your perspective, it can make you forget that you were up. I go through down times sometimes and it doesn't feel good. It's a mix of circumstance, health, history, outlook, etc. Change one of those and things get better. Read positive books, it will help you.

Answer 5

Young man! you should not be discussing those "sexual" types of thing out in this forum to strangers. you are too young.Please learn to not be so trusting to the general public.You dont know what kinds of monsters are out here.I sware if my 10yr. old ever put himself out there to people at your age I'd cry.Too bad you cant go to your adoptive family for help.I totaly hope my son canm always talk to me about anything.My heart goes out to you. But I will say that maybe if you come to terms with being adopted,having a sense of belonging,you may not feel the need to do those things.

Answer 6

Maybe you are depressed. I don't know you but if you are depressed or think you might be, you can go to just about any doctor and get a light medication that might make you feel better. Nobody has to know you are on a medication at all and it doesn't have to be a heavy one.

Answer 7

because you have to find out who you are. You were created with a purpose. When you have no confidence in who you are you walk around feeling like there is no point to life. You ARE a child of God, created in His image and in His likeness. He created you with a purpose. You need to find out what he "gifted" you with, and use them to bless others. My solution- Jesus. I lived too long without Him, and once I found Him, there was no turning back. Just my .02 cents worth. Praying for you!

Answer 8

Depression comes from negative thoughts that cause negative emotions. Thinking positive thoughts will produce positive emotions. Look at your glass as being half full instead of half empty. Make it your new habit.

Answer 9

Sounds like your lacking a little confidence. Once you find something you like or good at, things will get better. Besides your still young.

Answer 10

you're adopted....remember, you were chosen over any others by your parents who love you. In a way, birth parents just get who pops out, adoptive parents actively pick. Plus, the old saying, God (or whomever) didn't make no junk!